Hi all! Sorry for the long post... hopefully this will all make sense! My future sister-in-law has offered to throw me a typical bridal shower with a handful of friends and family. Another friend offered to host a couples shower. So, my first question is, would it be considered rude for a few couples to be invited to the couples shower, when the female half of the couple had already attended the bridal shower? This would only be in the case of a handful of good friends.
Additionally, my fiancee and I have moved away from our hometown, where most of our friends and family still live. A friend where we live now (who has been invited to the wedding) offered to throw us a couples shower - she loves to entertain and I think she would really like to do it. However, we were unable to invite most of the rest of our new friends where we currently live to the wedding.
Would it be appropriate to let this person know that we'd love to celebrate with our friends here, but aren't comfortable having a shower, since most of the people we'd invite aren't invited to the wedding, but instead ask if we could do some kind of luncheon or other sort of event? Or should we skip it alltogether? I don't want to give off the expectation that people should bring us gifts, especially since they aren't invited to the wedding. What do you think?
