Wedding party Significant others

vwhelan85 · July 2012

Where did you sit your wedding party's significant others? We are heaving a bridal party table and I was debating having the dates sit with the BP but the table would be 16 people long....Do you put them at the family tables or just at a normal table during the reception? Thanks

crash2729 · July 2012

We had a sweetheart table so my WP sat with their SOs.

brilibby4 · July 2012

We had a sweetheart table for husband and I. We sat our bridal party and their dates together and with other guests they know. For example, his sister (bridesmaid) and her boyfriend sat with some of my husband's family, but my brother (groomsman) and his girl friend sat with some of my family.

Matty143 · July 2012

Ditto PPs.

Lolagirl2012 · July 2012

We are doing the same, I hate the look of a big head table so this is the route we are going.

AEPerpete · July 2012

Have a sweetheart table with you and FI, MOH and her SO and BM and his SO, and then 2 other tables to each side with the rest of the WP and their SO's.
I asked this Q a while ago and was given great advice to NOT split up anyone from their SO's and this way, they are still up with you.Goodluck!

lauralaur · July 2012

We had a sweetheart table and spread the wedding party around. For example, my brother and his girlfriend sat with our cousins, my BIL and SIL sat with their cousins, etc. At a friend's wedding, she and her H sat at a sweetheart table and since they each had five attendants, we sat with our dates at tables on either side of them.

lyndausvi · July 2012

Our WP members sat with the SOs with people they would have sat with even if they were not in the WP.

IE. Friends sat with other friends. My siblings sat with my other siblings and parents. DH's siblings sat with MIL, etc.

professorscience · July 2012

If you're having a head table, you really should allow room for SOs. Yes, it will be a long table, but they should get to have dinner together.

I was a bridesmaid in a wedding with a head table, and there ended up not being room for my then FI, so I just moved to his table.

monkeysip · July 2012

While the sweetheart table is a good idea, there's also just sitting at regular tables or having a king's table. You could do a really long head table, but I agree, it might look weird. Then again, I don't like the look of head tables anyway.

FI and I plan to just sit at a regular round table. Either with our parents, or maybe with just MOH, her husband, and BM, and his wife.

A king's table is just a long table with people sitting on both sides. It wouldn't really work for our venue, but I think they look pretty cool. You could accomodate wedding party SOs that way, and you and FI are at one end together, like this:

Either way, of course, it is rude to separate the wedding party from their SOs. Figure out a way to keep them together.

crash2729 · July 2012

I will also say I was a BM in a wedding and the bride was going to have WP& SOs sit at the head table, except for me and H (then BF)..because she didn't "Know or like him" I was so offended I amost dropped out of the wedding.

H ended up not going to the wedding so I could sit at the head table.

All of that would have been avoided if she would have just had a sweetheart table.

emeejeeayen · July 2012

We're planning to have a long head table but where people sit on both sides so it's not as crazy. The rest of the wedding will be 8-person round tables.

RebeccaB88 · July 2012

Wherever you end up seating them, they should be with their SOs.

wrigleyville · July 2012

We're sitting at a sweetheart table so we can have a bit of "down time" to enjoy our dinner and chat.

My MOH, BMs, their husbands/dates, and their kids (eight people altogether) are sitting at a banquet round near the front of the room. Same for the BM and GM.

AlexaNP · July 2012

It depends what you want to do, and it depends on the situation. A lot of the PPs had good ideas. Every wedding I have ever been to has had a head table with only the wedding party, and the SO's sat with family or friends. But, I am from a very rural area where weddings are very traditional with none of the new trends that a lot of other people are doing. At my wedding, for instance, the families of all the BP members are invited, so the SO's can sit with them. Example, my MOH cousin's boyfriend will sit with my aunt, uncle, and cousins who are the MOH's family, since he knows them; my BM friend's husband will sit with her mother, grandmother, and siblings. Also, you may want to get your bridal party's opinion on if they care about being separated from their SO. I, for one, wouldn't mind, and neither would my FI, only because we are used to this being the case at weddings around home. Again, this might not be the best option for you, but I just wanted to give you another different suggestion in addition to the advice above.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wedding-party-significant-others?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:3e3f789c-193e-47dc-b7f4-17a937949b4ePost:5f2f0acb-bef4-4d1e-abd2-99b431ead170">Re: Wedding party Significant others</a>:
[QUOTE]We had a sweetheart table for husband and I. We sat our bridal party and their dates together and with other guests they know. For example, his sister (bridesmaid) and her boyfriend sat with some of my husband's family, but my brother (groomsman) and his girl friend sat with some of my family.
Posted by brilibby4[/QUOTE]

That's exactly what we did. So, for example, the GM who was my husband's friend from college sat with his girlfriend and other college friends. My brother sat with my dad.

I was recently at a wedding where my husband was a GM and we were at a king's/captain's table. Bride and Groom at the head of the table, wedding party members and their dates seated down each side of the table.

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