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Question of the Day

TysWife2BeTysWife2Be member
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How do you keep your relationship healthy while going through the stress of wedding planning?
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  • mikimoto6mikimoto6
    500 Comments Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    Fortunately, we have not had a lot of stressful moments during the planning. The only tense conversations were about money and the budget.  FI has a slightly unrealistic sense of how much some things cost, but once we got over the budget hump things have been great.  

    I also work hard to try to keep a normal routine. I cook 4 days a week and we go out on dates at least once a week.  I try to exclude him from details that I know he doesn't care about.  Things we discuss are food, entertainment, the guest list and budget. Everything else he leaves to me. 
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  • chescamchescam member
    Sixth Anniversary 500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    We have a date night every 2 weeks where we do not talk about anything wedding related. These are really nice. We could just sit back and enjoy each other. Marriage counselling has also helped a lot.
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  • island07b2bisland07b2b member
    Knottie Warrior 2500 Comments 100 Love Its Name Dropper
    edited December 2011
    Hmmm...this is a good question.  The wedding planning has been slow but now that I am less than a year out it will go into hot gear soon.  So, I know that my FH doesn't too much care for the planning details.  He just wants to be kept informed on the cost.  In the past with the checks I've done, I've told him the options and costs and had him sign off.  It was only when I had narrowed down all of the options to no more than three that he cared to get involved.  

    I think as things start to gear up that I am going to suggest a date and time each week to go over wedding stuff and the rest of the week is all about us.  I think he will appreciate that a lot and that way he knows that our time together and dates out won't be interrupted by "girlie" stuff. 



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  • Carla1019Carla1019
    1000 Comments
    edited December 2011

    I agree the pre-marital counseling was very helpful. We schedule time to discuss wedding related plans and budget. We sit down and go over everything on our to-do list and our budget. Once we finish we put our notes away and don't worry about anything else until it is time to sit down again. This is how we make sure we don't let it over power our relationship. I'm thankful for this board because I have already told him the possible head aches we will have with RSVPs, vendor disappointments, and set backs so we are trying to stay proactive.

    We also have date night once a week. I have a lot of experience throwing large corporate diners with a budget so I don't think the reception is very difficult.

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