Wedding party unbalanced

Dpisani · May 2012

I have 4 people in my wedding party, but my fiancé only has 2. I really want the numbers to be balanced, but he doesn't want to have to choose from all of his close friends. I think he is afraid someone will be offended. Is the lack of balance ok?

Maggie0829 · May 2012

Why do you want the numbers to be balanced? I am just interested in wondering the reason behind this because so many brides are concerned with it.

As for your question, uneven sides are perfectly fine and extremely normal. The pictures will look great and no one will feel like a prop.

Girlie1030 · May 2012

It's no big deal at all.

Dpisani · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_wedding-party-unbalanced-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:364f69cf-19ee-4d8c-854f-09c78d766fe6Post:c2cf5f69-29ca-41b2-932c-b5195b955802">Re: Wedding party unbalanced</a>:
[QUOTE]Why do you want the numbers to be balanced? I am just interested in wondering the reason behind this because so many brides are concerned with it. As for your question, uneven sides are perfectly fine and extremely normal. The pictures will look great and no one will feel like a prop.
Posted by Maggie0829[/QUOTE]

I feel like its balanced at most every wedding I attend!!! That's really the only reason why I was concerned! Thanks for the advice!

Maggie0829 · May 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding party unbalanced : I feel like its balanced at most every wedding I attend!!! That's really the only reason why I was concerned! Thanks for the advice!
Posted by Dpisani[/QUOTE]

Oh, ok. I am glad it was a "just haven't seen anthing differen" then a "but it will throw the whole look I am going for off". Some brides on here tend to be more about the "look" of the wedding the feelings of their friends. If I hadn't seen anything different before then I would probably wonder the same thing too.

Good luck with everything!

mbcdefg · May 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding party unbalanced : <strong>I feel like its balanced at most every wedding I attend!!! </strong>That's really the only reason why I was concerned! Thanks for the advice!
Posted by Dpisani[/QUOTE]

Has that affected your enjoyment of those weddings?

Dpisani · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_wedding-party-unbalanced-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:364f69cf-19ee-4d8c-854f-09c78d766fe6Post:f26645e8-2be1-4375-9510-681be994695e">Re: Wedding party unbalanced</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding party unbalanced : Has that affected your enjoyment of those weddings?
Posted by mbcdefg[/QUOTE]

I'm not really worried about how this will affect the enjoyment of my wedding. I'm new to wedding planning and I wasn't sure if there was a standard for stuff like this!!!

aragx6 · May 2012

Sides definitely don't have to match -- ours aren't going to either

TiffannieF · May 2012

Nope they don't need to match/balance. Just have 1 guy with 2 girls during the recessional!

MyNameIsNot · May 2012

Uneven parties are fine, and becoming more and more the norm.

But an unbalanced wedding party conjures up a different problem, like psych issues. That might be cause for concern.

littleluckypenny · May 2012

Mine is uneven (4 bridesmaids, 3 groomsmen). Doesn't matter.

Miliska · May 2012

We have 5 bridesmaids and 4 groomsmen, but we haven't decided yet who's the lucky boy who will walk with two pretty girls on hir arms during the recessionnal.

photobyautumn · May 2012

I have three maid of honors and he has one best man. One of my ladies is 6 foot tall and just shaved her head into a mohawk-type hairstyle and the other just became pregnant and will be quite round come wedding-time. The other is more-or-less "normal" if you want to make categories. I'm loving it. It's unbalanced, it's unusual and it's my favorite people. It's perfectly imperfect just like life and love.

mbcdefg · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_wedding-party-unbalanced-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:364f69cf-19ee-4d8c-854f-09c78d766fe6Post:f21e2b5e-dce1-40b2-bd3d-9ee986167a1b">Re: Wedding party unbalanced</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding party unbalanced : I'm not really worried about how this will affect the enjoyment of my wedding. I'm new to wedding planning and <strong>I wasn't sure if there was a standard for stuff like this!!</strong>!
Posted by Dpisani[/QUOTE]

That's exactly the point, though ... if something doesn't affect your or your guests' enjoyment of the wedding, or their comfort or something like that, then it's not something to worry about.

Examples: Nobody will be affected if the wedding party is unbalanced. People WILL be affected if you decide not to rent chairs for the ceremony and they all have to stand there the whole time. Nobody will be affected if your bridesmaids' dresses and accessories aren't perfectly matched. People WILL be affected if you say, "We don't have an even bridal party and I need someone to fill in. Do you want to do it?" (because their feelings will be hurt that they were an afterthought and a second-string replacement and they're only being asked to even things out).

There aren't any real rules to weddings. Your job is to make sure it's all legal (license, proper officiant), and to treat your guests well (feed them, make sure there are enough seats for everyone, be kind to them). That is IT. Beyond that, as long as your're not hurting anyone, do anything you want. Get married while wearing a hot dog costume if you want.

XCaribeans · May 2012

lol, I like to call it modern, I have 4 girls on my side, but my FI has 2 guys and 2 girls (groomswomen) although i was a little scared of what people would think...
The closer we get to the date, the happier i am that we are being different, instead of him trying to add "guys" in that he might not be as good of friends with as the girls.

creyes721 · May 2012

My wedding party is unbalanced too. I wanted 4 girls and my fiance only wanted 3 guys. So I added my nephew as a junior groomsman and he is going to walk with one of my bridesmaids. Luckily he will be 10 when we get married so I can do it

Just manuver somethings if the balance really bothers you that much. But don't let it ruin you day

MrsKingston1204 · May 2012

I'm not sure if this is part of your day or not, but what about at the reception when you have the bridal party dance. What's a good way to figure that out if you still want your bridal party to dance together and you have uneven BM and GM?

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