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FMIL question??

I'm just wondering, what do you call your FMIL/MIL?
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Re: FMIL question??

  • I used to call her Ms. Cindy. I dropped the "Ms." at her insistence.
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  • Her name is Jane Smith, so I call her Mom S.

    I always called her Mrs. Smith until she called me and when I said hello, replied with "Hey Alexia, it's Mom S"

    I think it's a little silly and doesn't roll off my tongue so smoothly.

    When my unborn children get married, I'd like for their spouse to call me Alexia.  I'm not formal, and we're family for crying out loud.
  • I call her "your mom".  She is deceased. 
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  • I don't call her anything, because I prefer not to talk to that heinous biitch.
  • I call her Ellen if I'm talking to my mom (since that's what my mom calls her) but when I'm addressing her in person or e-mail, I just call her Mom. 
    I didn't know what I was going to call her until after the engagement party, she signed the card "Love Mom and Dad" so I took that as the green light to call them Mom and Dad :)
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  • mswood1977mswood1977 member
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    I call mine Mrs. LastName because she hasn't told me to call her anything else and I don't fill comfortable calling her by her first name or Mom without her saying something like "just call me firstname" or "you can call me Mom" etc.

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  • I don't call my MIL anything.  If I have to say something, I just start talking to her.

    Away from DH and his family, I refer to her as Bunny (as in Charlotte's MIL from Sex and the City).


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    I call my FMIL by her first name.  It's just developed that way, and we both seem comfortable with it.

    But I do have a funny story about my ex-BF...and how I realized his mom wouldn't be able to really welcome me into their family.  They are traditional Chinese, BF was first generation.  When I met them, she said, "Hi, I'm Mrs. X, you can call me...(long pause while she really thought about it), Mrs. X."  Um, awkward!  Ex-BF and I are still friends, and still joke about it.  Apparently she's finally come to grips with the fact that ex-BF has a type (read: Blonde-ish), and was very welcoming when she met his current GF and GF's child. 

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  • haha lovethebeach16 I don't remeber the last time I called my own mom "mom".  When I call her she answers and I just say " hey it's me" and begin talking.  With my FMIL I would just begin talking as I do so much of the time with people I know, lately she, Fi and I have been joking about what my names gong to be after we get married.  Through this I found out that she hates her first name so I just started calling her "Ty's Mommy" and I started it to drive her nuts, but she likes it lol.  I suppose after the joke has run it's course it'll be Mom
  • First name.  I couldn't imagine calling her "Mom."  Although his father has insisted that I call him, "Dad."  I'm still working through that one.  For the longest, I just called her Mrs. FI's Last name.  Now, I call her First name.
  • It depends on my mood...its Usually Mindy, but sometimes its Mom.
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  • i call her bridget or sis (her nickname). everyone calls her that, even FI lol. FSIL is the only one that calls her mom. i think it would be really weird though to call her mom.

  • I use her first name, well it is really a nickname but you get the point.
  • I call her by her first name or Mrs. M which is what she sometimes writes in emails.
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  • I don't have a MIL so I don't call her anything.  I don't have any inlaws, as a matter of fact.
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  • Her name is Patricia, I call her Pat or Trisha. We say I love you all the time but I don't know how to transition to Mom. My FI calls my mother mom already.

  • My FMIL asked her son-in-law (my future brother in law) to call her "MILD", which stands for "Mother in law dear". i think that's a little silly and am hoping she doesn't ask me to call her that! I don't think he calls her that thought... actually, I don't think I've ever heard him call her anything.

    I called her Mrs. LastName before we got engaged, bu that feels awkward now that we're engaged. I think I'll just call her & her husband by their first names after the wedding. Mom and Dad would sound so weird, especially because I don't even call my step-mom "mom", I use her first name.

    Just do whatever you're both comfortable with.
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  • Her first name. She does not want me calling her Mom, which is totally ok. I call my FFIL "Papa first name" and he likes it.
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    We both call each others parents by their first name.

    It never occurred to me to call her anything other than her first name as that is what she introduced herself as. 

    My parents introduced themselves by their first name also.






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  • FMIL is Mary, and FFIL is Chris.  They were never introduced ot ma as anything else other than their first names; though generally, I just call then FI's Mom and FI's Dad
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  • I call her HEY! I dont call her anything but when i do i say FI mom, or your mom. My ex fiance's mother( Who was a bitch) Wanted me to call her mom, I tried to but it felt weird, maybe bc i didnt like her and she didn't like me
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  • I've called my FMIL by her first name since day 1 of knowing her. We are not formal people. I joke around sometimes and call my FFIL "Pops" but usually I just call him by his first name as well.  
  • MY mother always called her MIL "mom." I didn't know it was uncommon until later in life.

    I call my FMIL by her first name, which is how she introduced herself to me.
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  • My FMIL passed away but my FFIL is an amazing man who I like a lot so I call him "Dad"  It totally makes my dad jealous.
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  • I'm more of a "hey you" kind of person. I just start talking to a person when I want to get their attention. I don't feel comfortable calling her mom or by her first name or Mrs. "last name".
  • I don't really call FMIL anything. I refer to her as firstname or "his mom". She is the least warm person I've ever met (she's also an alcoholic & has made FI's life a living hell) and even if she asked I could never call her mom. FI's dad on the other hand while I don't really call him anything either I could totally call dad.
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  • I call FMIL by her first name, as her last name is very long(His dad is Armenian). With his Dad, I either start talking to him, or I call him by his American nickname. I could never call either of them Mom or Dad, I have my own parents. FH calls both his and my parents by their first names.
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  • I call FMIL "Momma".  I actually used this name for her back in high school when FI & I were just friends.  All of our group of friends called her that.  I sent her a thank you note a few months ago and addressed it to "Firstname".  The next time she came to visit she yelled at me "Cut that sh!t out!  I"m not "Firstname" I'm "mom"!"  (Holy quotation marks, Batman!)

    I thought a TY card deserved a more formal tone, but I guess not. 

    FI calls my mom by her first name. 
  • I don't call my FMIL or FFIL anything, I just start talking. They have two first names (a church name and their given names), so if I accidentally called them their given names they would hate me. LOL. My FI calls my Mom "Mom" because that's what she told him to call her.
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