We are having a secular ceremony and we are writing our own vows. Our officiant is a good friend who introduced us a few years ago. He suggested lighting a unity candle or doing some kind of gesture like that at the end of the ceremony, after we do the vows and rings, etc. I'm not crazy about the candle idea but I can't think of anything else that is much better. One thought I had was putting our vows (we will have them written down with us) in a special box, and locking it and having the officiant hand it to us as something to hold on to and remind us about why we are married, etc... he also suggested something that involves our guests, like taking a lap around the guests after we are married (not sure I want to do this!)
any other (better) ideas?