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courthouse wedding...

ashgioashgio
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has anyone had a courthouse wedding? and would you recommend it to other people?

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  • mrsfw122511mrsfw122511 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_courthouse-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:4bbd6552-e412-450d-8879-6cc522bcc318Post:1f2c2bae-7693-4ada-965f-94cf9e5b6cd6">Re: courthouse wedding...</a>:
    [QUOTE]Um.. RUDE. I'm a military brat turn military Bride. My fiance' proposed before deployment last year, and we knew we wanted a fall or spring wedding. We also knew that I would look dental insurance, we live together, it would be nice to have the TINY extra cash that comes with marriage, blah blah blah blah. He came back from deployment, and here we are. Our wedding is in september. I stand in your shoes as a military spouse. In fact, the entire military board does, so I think you are SORELY mistaken when you think we all get it... because we don't. Sorry. Not a wedding. When is your anniversary then? Yup. Alright then. It's circumstance? How? Because you wanted more money, to be able to live together, to have better benefits, etc? Guess what that is called in the military? Fraud. Waste. and Abuse. HandBanana is right. You need to be careful... We military brides don't like to be lumped into that category you are in. I am a bride. You are a wife.
    Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]

    I have some things to say...I am getting married this Saturday in a courthouse because we need to make sure that I am being taken care of when he leaves for basic in August. I think having two weddings is fine, this may be my actual wedding but he guess what I can do WHATEVER I want to do...it will be MY day and no one can take that away from me. Every girl wants the day where they wear a pretty white dress and walk down the aisle. Yes, my second wedding may be a vow renewal but guess what, I want it that way. Everyone up here putting JOP weddings down need to back off. We are all doing our weddings OUR way and thats not up to anyone but the bride and groom, thank you very much.
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  • flickster94087flickster94087
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_courthouse-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:4bbd6552-e412-450d-8879-6cc522bcc318Post:330a8f01-6c63-42a5-8906-9337bcd18224">courthouse wedding...</a>:
    [QUOTE]has anyone had a courthouse wedding? and would you recommend it to other people?
    Posted by ashgio[/QUOTE]

    I am currently changing plans to do a courthouse wedding!  My father came to me and my sisters and told us point blank "I've delt with too many crazy women and weddings in my time. i will give you five thousand dollars to elope and then come back and have a party." My sisters and I understand what he means, we work at a bridal shop, and boy as soon as the ring is on women lose their heads!! And since we didn't grow up in a religious household, the wedding has always been more of party idea. My boyfriend has always hinted at a courthouse ceremony since he has less ties his family than I do, and I've always just wanted a big party anyways so we're compromising!

    We're going to do the ceremony at the courthouse with one or two witnesses each, and then we'll have a big reception/party in some location we like (we're thinking a coastal vacation rental since we're in the SF Bay area, CA). That way we still get to celebrate with all of our friends and family, and we can still afford to do everything without going into debt!

    Also, i have personal friends who got married in secret, and then after one year had the official wedding ceremony and reception. Anyone can look it up, the ceremony outside of the courthouse is purely for religious and cultural purposes. you can choose to keep the legality of it, but even if that is your only wedding you still wouldn't be signing the license there at the altar, and you still have to do paper work afterward! I say, if it's easier to elope and then have a big wedding for your family/friends (because it IS for family/friends at that point) then that's your business!
    I'll be a Mrs. but he's taking my name! ?Just because something is traditional is no reason to do it, of course.? ? Lemony Snicket
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  • diazsamadiazsama
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    I've heard on other boards that the women here (for the mostpart) on the knot are so rude and nasty to each other.  This was my first visit to the knot's forum in a really, really long time and they weren't kidding.  To the nasty women....your husbands are so lucky to have such compassionate wives.Surprised  I hope you're nicer to them if they use the "wrong" words around you.

    Here's what it comes down to.  I think the women who are getting really upset about you calling it a wedding are women who feel threatened by it and are maybe jealous that you have it as an option and they didn't.  They somehow feel superior because they knew not to call it a wedding, as if it matters.  Do what you want OP and I would suggest leaving the knot because you won't get much help here.  Just women blowing off steam from their own frustrations in life.
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