Hair & makeup

ashynich · December 2010

Who pays for hair & makeup for the Bride, Bridesmaid's, etc? Am I supposed to pay for my own? Am I supposed to pay for theirs? What does Etiquette say about that?

laurenclaire1386 · December 2010

Yes, pay for your own. Who else would pay for yours? If you are requiring that your BMs have their hair and makeup done a certain way, then you need to pay for it. If it's completely optional and you're leaving that decision up to them, they pay.

Mrs.B6302007 · December 2010

If the bride is requiring it of the BP party, she pays. If it's optional, each BP member pays individually.

annakb8 · December 2010

Yes, you pay for your own. If you require bridesmaid's to have their hair and makeup done professionally you should pay for them too (and no, this does not count as a gift). If you are not requiring that they have theirs done, you can still let them know you have made an appoitment for yourself at X salon and they are welcome to set up appointments for themselves if they wish.

Just to let you know, I have never been reqired to have my hair and makeup done as a bridesmaid. And I would be kind of annoyed if I were, even if the bride was paying. I just don't like people touching me. Hell, I am not even getting my hair and make up done professionally for my own wedding. (I do have very short hair though, so I know people with long hair might feel differently.)

saisongbird · December 2010

Ditto Mrs. B. Other than the dress, anything you require (jewelry, specific shoes, hair, makeup, nails), you pay for. You can say "Hey, I'm getting my (hair, makeup, nails) done at X, let me know if you want to join me," so that they don't have to go. But you can't require it.

The less you require, the more they'll probably do. I didn't require anything. All my girls opted for pro hair, mani/pedis, and my MOH got her makeup professionally done, all of their own accord.

laurenclaire1386 · December 2010

Anna, I get where you're coming from with the short hair thing. Initially I didn't want to pay someone to do my hair and makeup, but I changed my mind, and I swear it's the best money I ever spent. The girls who did mine did an amazing job and I'm certainly not capable of recreating what they did with either my hair or my makeup. But I didn't require my BMs to have theirs done. MOH did, but she was the only one who elected to do that.

[Deleted User] · December 2010

Ditto pp's. I did not require my BM's to get their hair or make-up done professionally bc I could not afford to pay for them. Two of them did, and they were ok with paying for it themselves bc I didn't require them to wear it a certain way or anything like that.

I would have paid for my own hair and nails if my Grandma didn't offer to pay for them instead.

ashynich · December 2010

I only ask who pays for the bride because my mom is paying for most of my wedding, so I wasn't sure if my hair & makeup is something she will probably pay for, or if I have to do that myself.

We're doing things slightly different for my wedding, because 2 of my bridesmaids are single moms, and couldn't afford their dresses. So I am paying for their dresses, and told them they have to buy their shoes. (which they all found some on clearance for $9!! that are super cute!) I'm going to make their jewelry. So all that's left is hair & makeup.

[Deleted User] · December 2010

Even though your Mom is paying for the wedding, I don't think it would hurt you to pay for your own hair and make-up if she doesn't offer or think about it. Please don't ask her if she forgets or doesn't mention it. Paying for the wedding is a lot and I would just be very appreciative of that.

laurenclaire1386 · December 2010

I planned to pay for my hair and makeup, but like you, my parents paid for most of the wedding, and my mom ended up paying for it. But I didn't know she was going to until it was time to write the check, so I'd planned to do it myself.

shortee426 · December 2010

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TurtlesAllTheWayDown · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_hair-makeup?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4619a853-90c6-44fc-b092-dfbd03306814Post:e6e0670d-e677-424a-8967-9e22523d0e58">Re: Hair & makeup</a>:
[QUOTE]Yes, you pay for your own. If you require bridesmaid's to have their hair and makeup done professionally you should pay for them too (and no, this does not count as a gift). If you are not requiring that they have theirs done, you can still let them know you have made an appoitment for yourself at X salon and they are welcome to set up appointments for themselves if they wish. <strong>Just to let you know, I have never been reqired to have my hair and makeup done as a bridesmaid. And I would be kind of annoyed if I were, even if the bride was paying.</strong> I just don't like people touching me. Hell, I am not even getting my hair and make up done professionally for my own wedding. (I do have very short hair though, so I know people with long hair might feel differently.)
Posted by annakb8[/QUOTE]

<div>This. When people say, "if you require it, you pay" I'm always like, "Who the hell would "require" it?" It sounds way too control-freak for my liking, so I'd advise against that, anyway.</div>

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_hair-makeup?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4619a853-90c6-44fc-b092-dfbd03306814Post:10a4be39-c824-427c-904d-7c99c84da20b">Re: Hair & makeup</a>:
[QUOTE]I only ask who pays for the bride because my mom is paying for most of my wedding, so I wasn't sure if my hair & makeup is something she will probably pay for, or if I have to do that myself. We're doing things slightly different for my wedding, because 2 of my bridesmaids are single moms, and couldn't afford their dresses. So I am paying for their dresses, and told them they have to buy their shoes. (which they all found some on clearance for $9!! that are super cute!) I'm going to make their jewelry. So all that's left is hair & makeup.
Posted by ashynich[/QUOTE]

<div>I paid for my BM dresses and I paid for their manis/pedis (we went out to a spa the day before the wedding). I didn't expect them to pay for anything else. One bought new shoes and accessories and the other wore shoes and jewelry she already had. They did their own hair and makeup, which was their choice.</div>

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