Prenup

[Deleted User] · February 2012

Ok...Anyone doing a prenup?

Sophia1913 · February 2012

We arent. FI jokes with me that we need one so I don't get all of his riches and land that he has stashed away somewhere and none of which he really has.

Jana711 · February 2012

Nope. We thought about it but decided against it.

ellone400 · February 2012

nope

[Deleted User] · February 2012

We have been having the discussion (well, mostly me) as we both have children from previous relationships, and I wanted to preserve the interest of my children. Outside of that, I am willing to go without one, but I definitely wanted to hear what others are doing along this line.

joneka · February 2012

Thought about it since I own my home and want to protect my investments prior to our relationship but thinking against since I think its not considered comm property...i dnt want to hurt his feeling and were lookin to buy a new home together..

Carla1019 · February 2012

Nope.

melntaitt · February 2012

Nope; I feel pretty secure that we will be ok.

Sherri0129 · February 2012

I don't really want one but Fiance and I did talk about it. I gave him the hardest time at first because I looked at it from a heart/emotional point of view rather than logical. I do understand though why we may consider it. Being that FI is in the process of recording a gospel cd and has his own place already if he wants to protect it, so be it. In a sense it would "protect" me if I decide to be a stay at home wife/mom. Regardless of papers or no papers being his wife already establishes that what is his is mine and vice versa. What he is doing (career) is not just for him, but for me and our future family. *Sigh* Also, his brother is nice and all but always gives the "what if she's in it for your money". I hate the thought of proving I love you by signing the papers to show that it isn't really about the money, but at the same time if it gets him and other people to hush their mouths... it isn't too bad of an idea. Fiance and I believe "Divorce is not an option" so we'll just look at it as a piece of paper. Overall, I still rather not. I've never imagined myself signing a prenup.... but who knows?

Soon2BSand · February 2012

island07b2b · February 2012

No ma'am.

kaimah · February 2012

nope

afrenchprincess · February 2012

I can't . I'm Catholic and it would invalidate the marriage in the eyes of the Catholic church. You can get an revocable living trust or will if you have children and want to protect their interest. But a prenup that has anything to do with "in case of divorce" is not accepted. The word divorce should not be in the vocabulary when entering marriage in the Catholic church. Do other religions allow for prenups?

ejagers · February 2012

MrsSmith2Be02 · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_prenup?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:dac7982f-c98f-4d0d-8694-cf321c5e10f7Post:b3a6cd19-727c-4c68-8dc5-0ab5eb972302">Re: Prenup</a>:
[QUOTE]nope FI knows its cheaper to keep her lol (love that old school jam). I did mention it once and he completely shot me down he has already told me over and over<strong> if we ever split he'd give me everything because he is leaving the state
</strong>Posted by kikilay17[/QUOTE]

That's funny. I've thought about it, but haven't brought it up. I have a son from a previous relationship and we have a daughter together. I bought the house before our daughter was born and he was living somewhere else. We've lived together for the past 17 months and have thought about our next move. We both believe Divorce is not an option, however just in the interest of my children, I'll still think about it. Great thread to bring up.

20pearls16 · February 2012

YES!! We are looking into getting a pre-nup. We both went through nasty divorces the first time around. I have no problem with a pre-nup and neither does the FI. We both have investment properties to protect and children from previous marriages to protect. Although we love each other and are looking forward to "forever" together we are both realistic. Being taken through the ringer the first time was no fun at all for either one of us.

wallacje · February 2012

Nope we didn't do one. Never even thought about one either. I have a property that I purchased in 2005 but that's about it. Neither one of us have anything really but debt to bring into our relationship. H has a kid but she stays with the BM so I wasn't sure if I should be worried. We are still trying to find our way financially though.

Good thread to bring up though for others that may be worried.

MrsJenrette · February 2012

Nope... and not a mention of it either!

brandidt84 · February 2012

Nope. Not doing a prenup. We joked about it but thats about it. We both know that we are in this forever. In good times and in bad.

M1ssJ · February 2012

Yes. I am. Not because I dont trust him but because I look at it like insurance, I dont plan on dying but I have life insurance. I think the reality of knowing ppl who have been married 20-30 years geting divorced just made it a must for me. We dont have much but a bunch of student loan debt , one condo each, and some retirement funds but its not a statement of us not trusting each other. We just never want anger to overrule our love.

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