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Pros and Cons Of Church vs Outdoor Ceremony

librababylibrababy
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So we have wanted to have an outdoor ceremony forever.  Just being in the open outdoors with nature was a dream of ours.  However, we couldn't find an place within our budget so we decided to have the ceremony in our backyard.  

However, I am thinking about a backup plan and now it looks like the backup plan might be THE plan.  

The church I am thinking of is pretty nice.  I don't know the specifics yet so it's not set in stone as to whether we'll get married there.  It depends on a few factors:
How much control we get to have
How much we'd have to pay (I will be a member so cost might be low)
If they have our date available

As for NOT having it in the backyard:
I wouldn't have to worry about rain
I won't have to rent chairs
I won't have to spend extra $$ on decor for the cocktail hour

Also the church might be more comfortable.  But then the laid back feel of the backyard wedding is sacrificed.  I won't get to just relax at home and wait for the ceremony to start... now I'd need to figure out transportation.  Just don't know what we'll do yet.
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Re: Pros and Cons Of Church vs Outdoor Ceremony

  • artbyallieartbyallie mod
    Moderator Eighth Anniversary 5000 Comments 500 Love Its
    There are more choices than just a church or outdoors. Many reception venues offer the option of doing the ceremony as well. My feeling is that the wedding should only be in a church if the bride and groom (not their parents) feel a spiritual attachment for the church in question. Using a sacred building just because it's pretty or because someone is pressuring the couple into it is not a good reason and somewhat blasphemous, IMHO. I'm not saying either of those are your reasons, as you haven't given any reason for wanting the church aside from comfort.

    So, are you and your groom religious? Will church play a role in your life together? If those answers are yes, I'd go for the church wedding. If not, please look for a different venue if you choose not to go for outdoors.
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  • Kristin789Kristin789 member
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    Outside in Boston on the last weekend in November?  No way.

    I've gone to a professional conference in Boston on the first or second weekend in November about three times, and it was frigid cold.  You want me to sit outside for a ceremony on the 4th weekend in November?  It will be very cold and possibly raining, and almost certainly very gray.  That's not the setting for a wonderful wedding.
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  • ladydaisyladydaisy member
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    Our house is located inside an actual park system.   It is so beautiful and there is a lake right down the road where my FI proposed to me.   We both first thought we would have our ceremony at the park.  Then we went to a wedding of a family member.  It was an outdoor ceremony in front of a pond on a huge estate in Vermont.  Should have been gorgeous.  

    But then it rained and rained and rained.  Dumped buckets.  They ended up having to completely close up the tent, which made it feel small and chlosterphobic (sp?) and we had to walk thru wet grass and mud to go to the bathroom.  The pictures turned out awful.  The bride had no long walkway....just popped inside the tent and that was it.  What a terrible time.  I felt so bad for them after all their planning.

    We decided that day that we are having an indoor wedding.  I think outdoor weddings are the best when the weather is great.... but not worth the chance in my opinion.  I will be nervous enough without worrying about something I cant control like the weather.

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