Mother is driving ca.ra.zy. I'm venting. No need to read all this crap.
We just got into a huge fight about who can/can't be invited. Between her siblings, their children, and my best friends my invite list is already almost 90. She thinks she should be allowed to invite her friends that I've never met... even though my parents want nothing to do with helping to pay. NO I said, our budget doesn't allow that. FI's parent's aren't allowed to invite their friends that he doesn't know either. So she then proceeded to tell me that FI shouldn't invite as many people to save money, especially his family. She made a point of telling me that I only have a few best friends, so "how could the bride's invite list be close to 90??" Um... hellooo you have to invite FI/husbands/long term bg/gfs of your friends. She thinks they shouldn't be invited at all. We can't not invite our aunts and uncles, right, that's just rude. We can't not invite SO of our guests, that's also rude. It's not our fault that her family lives in the midwest and FI's family lives here... meaning more of his will come than mine. Why can't she just be happy that we have alot of people who we love and adore and want there? This is so frustrating. We haven't been engaged for 2 weeks, and already I'm ready to elope.
Another thing... she wants me to get FI on speaker phone so she can verbally confront him and ask why he didn't ask to my dad first. I'm not bothered by it, my dad comes across as an ass sometimes and I don't blame FI for not doing it. Cryin out loud... we're 36 and 28. We're not children. We made the decision to spend our life together. I think that that confrontation would really make FI uncomfortable, and would probably ruin that relationship for awhile. The past is the past and she just needs to have him swallow his damned pride and get over it. Can't they just be happy for us instead of picking fights 2 weeks into our engagement???
UGH. How much is it to elope in Hawaii?