I don't believe in addressing a woman by her husband's name (i.e. Mrs. John Doe). How should I address the outer envelope:
1) Mr. John & Mrs. Jane Doe
2) Mrs. Jane & Mr. John Doe
3) Mrs. & Mr. Jane & John Doe
Also for a family
4) The Mr. John & Mrs. Jane Doe Family
5) Mr. John & Mrs. Jane Doe Family
Help Please