I have three weeks until my wedding and a big issue with a bridesmaid. I could really use someone's advice /opinion.
My one bridesmaid has been incredibly difficult at times throughout the last six months. I've pretty much reached my limit with her. It started out when we were looking for dresses. We had a hard time finding one that worked and fitted everyone's price range. I thought one had been settled on and went to order them and realized they didn't have the sizes we needed. At the point this particular bridesmaid had given me money for her dress. I let her know that the dress situation and that we would be looking for a different one. The girls decided on one less expensive. At that point I offered to mail her a check for the difference and she told me not worry about it. That she would get it from me later. Then she showed up at my work wanting it. Well I didnt have the cash or my checkbook on me. I offered to mail it to her again. She said no. She came back to my work three days later wanting it again and this time I made sure I had it on me.
A few weeks ago I had a dress fitting and needed the girls to try on their dresses at the alteration store. ( I told them all bout the appointment weeks in advance)This bridesmaid wanted to bring her eight year old son and three year old daughter. I told her no because it wasn't a child friendly environment.(It would have taken fifteen minutes to try it on, etc.) She had a cow so I asked her to make an arrangement to go a different time. My feelings were that her eight year old son did not need to be there and around the rest of the women while we were undressing/dressing.
The most recent thing she pulled was after the bachelorette party. She told another girl that was at the party untrue things that I supposedly said.. So now the other girl won't speak to me. *sigh*
I feel like I'm back in middle school and hate it! So now I'm not sure what to do with this bridesmaid. I feel like who needs enemies when you have a friend like that. Any suggestions? I honestly don't feel comfortable with her standing up with me anymore. She isn't the person I thought she was.