STD to couple possibly getting a divorce??

WalkersFurMama · July 2012

FH's cousin has apparently (recently) cheated on his wife. From what I can gather, they do not currently live together and she has been referencing him as her "ex-husband" in some pretty shockingly hateful posts on Pinterest (she deleted most of us from "his" side of the family from FB more than a month ago).

Given that whole mess. . .

Do I still send the STD to them as a married couple at their house? They are technically still married, and she would obviously be his +1 if they remain married. However, if they do get a divorce, she wouldn't remain his +1 and he would get a generic "and guest". I have no idea where he is staying as he hasn't been in contact with anyone since this has happened. I hope and pray that they can reconcile and remain married but I have no idea what's going on. My FMIL hasn't heard either, and I feel snoopy calling around to other family members to get further details. Any insight as to how I should handle this situation would be wonderful. Thank you!

ahhhitsshannyn · July 2012

I would have FI call the cousin to confirm the address. It doesn't have to be like "I know you cheated on your wife so where are you staying," it could just be a simple "Hey we are sending out our invitations soon and I wanted to get your address of where to send them." He can decide if he wants it to go somewhere else if it looks like he is getting a divorce.

tiffysue2012 · July 2012

i agree with PP

ericaandtom2012 · July 2012

I would wait and not send a STD, especially since you don't know where he is living, or call/text/email/FB him to get his new address ("Hey, we're collecting addresses, what is yours?") with no mention of the pending divorce. There is still plenty of time before your wedding for things to change.

AceTT · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_std-to-couple-possibly-getting-a-divorce?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:8eb14548-2ba3-4d07-a8ea-ffeca9598890Post:6264a05e-5b2f-445c-bb03-0e05a3f3bd22">Re: STD to couple possibly getting a divorce??</a>:
[QUOTE]I would have FI call the cousin to confirm the address. It doesn't have to be like "I know you cheated on your wife so where are you staying," it could just be a simple "Hey we are sending out our invitations soon and I wanted to get your address of where to send them." He can decide if he wants it to go somewhere else if it looks like he is getting a divorce.
Posted by ahhhitsshannyn[/QUOTE]

I like this idea. If cousin mentions how to address it, follow his suggestion. If not, perhaps just send to him only at his current address. Your wedding is still a year away, so who knows where cousin and his wife will be by the time you send actual invitations in 10 months.

Mrs.B6302007 · July 2012

Yeah, I would skip the STD as well and see how things stand when the invitations go out. If a family member happens to mention to him that they received STDs and you are questioned about his not receiving one, you could say he is definitely invited but you were very unsure of the addressing issue due to the timing of the circumstances.

daffydillie · July 2012

I would call/text him up and ask him for his address. Been through a divorce over infidelity myself and not getting a STD may add further insult to injury. And it would not hurt to check in on him, non wedding related. Infidelity is very, very painful and add the divorce on top of it and he could very well be in a very bad place even if he was the "cheater."

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