One of my friends (a guy who goes to school with H) got engaged recently. He seems really happy, so I'm happy for him, but I can't help side-eyeing a little due to a combination of factors:
His new fiancee is barely 22 (and he's 24).
They've been dating for 5 months.
They've been long-distance for 4 of those 5 months.
He was engaged before and ended that engagement in December 2011 -- a little over a year ago.
They're planning to get married this summer, at which time they'll have been together about year.
Also, he's been using that whole "when you know, you know" line. (I mean, if a newb came on here describing her relationship with the stats above, we would all side-eye at least a little, right?)
But that's not the point of this post.
I was talking to him about it the other night and he handled my skepticism gracefully -- agreed that it was fast, laughed when I teased him about being "an expert at proposals by now," etc. And then he started talking about how he knew after one date that he wanted to be with her forever and started planning the proposal right away and 5 months was just the longest he could make himself wait.
I started feeling a little wistful because I never felt that way about H and I'm pretty sure he never felt that way about me. I definitely knew right away that he was a wonderful person and I hoped I would have him in my life in the future, and there were several events - spaced out over several years - that helped us grow closer and closer, but our relationship grew steadily and, alas, slowly. I could have walked away after the first month (or even the first year, really) and not been too broken-hearted over it. Am I the only one?
If I'm honest with myself, I still don't "know" that H is the right one for me. I don't really think it's possible to know something like that, but my friend sure seems to.
Anyway, I wrote this whole novel just to ask: was there a moment when you "knew?" When did it happen? How? If you haven't had that moment, do you ever wish you had? Basically, just talk to me about how your relationship progressed from first meeting to now.;