I've posted here and there before, but this is an anonymous sn because I am dealing with a touch subject and I don't want anyone to connect me to the post.
Background #1: My FFIL is baby obsessed. He harrasses his children about giving him a grandchild on a regular basis. He already has 1 grandchild from one of FI's sisters, and another sister is pregnant and due this spring. When 2 of FI's sister's got married their father made a toast that heavily revolved around the idea that they should make him a grandchild asap now that they were married. This same speech will be happening at our wedding, and while I'm pretty mortified by it, I had basically decided that he'll be the one to look foolish by rambling on and on about it.
Background #2: A good friend of mine was supposed to have a baby on the day of my wedding (which is quickly approaching, less than a month away). Sadly, about 3 weeks ago she lost the baby, it's heartbreaking. She and her husband do plan on attending my wedding, because she said they would like to be out of the house that day and not thinking about how they should have been at the hospital welcoming their new baby.
Question: Would it be out of line for FI to speak to his father about the toast he plans on making. I'm pretty sure the last thing my friend needs to hear on her due date is a long drawn out speech about babies, and out of respect for their situation I would really like to avoid making her and her H uncomfortable and/or emotionally breaking down. If this had not happened, I wouldn't say a thing, because you can't dictate things people do or say, but I'm wondering if this situation would be an exception. Or if there is any other course of action we can take........thanks so much for any advice.