A little bit ago I posted about how I'm having a DW and my FI grandmother/family didn't RSVP. I had him contact them and they said they didn't have enough time to plan, blah blah blah, if it really was the last day to give the final number they won't be coming. So they aren't coming and have decided to do an AHR for us. I honestly really don't want this, but its not a hill to die on esp at the beginning of our marriage.
His grandmother is planning this whole thing. From the beginning we have made it clear this is not a second wedding. The first invitations she chose were clear wedding invitation (Invited to the marriage of...). FI told her we will not be using those. He also went over how we will not be having a first dance, cake cutting, etc that are "wedding" activities. So today she e-mails me asking for what song we would like for our first dance. I talked to FI and he said he will talk to her again and go over how we are not doing any of these activities.
Should I respond to her e-mails? She will e-mail two times a day if I don't respond, or don't respond with an answer she likes. Also, if my FI gives her an answer she doens't like she will come to me and ask me the same question I guess looking for a different answer. How should I handle this? I feel like this is going to be on going and I don't know how to handle it so hopefully it will stop. TIA!