FMIL is a stickler for etiquette. Her etiquette. Whatever the heck she was raised with - apparently there is a book. She is the kind of woman who will cut you off if you don't send her a thank you note within so many days. She rants and raves about everyone's manners. Fine... but I was raised much more loosey-goosey than that so, of course, I offend constantly because I don't know "the rules". But damn if I haven't been doing my best! Her daughter is just as bad and actually got me a wedding etiquette book for Christmas. Seriously...
So today we get an email telling us FMIL's dear friend in Michigan never received an invitation. Well, she was on the list and stuff happens (evil USPS). We marked her as a no at the direction of FMIL a few weeks ago because we all thought she was probably still dealing with the death of her husband a few months ago and wouldn't come (long way to travel, packing house, etc.) So she wasn't on the list of people with whom to follow up and we did not realize her invitation did not arrive. I told FMIL we had 3-4 that didn't arrive and I'd be happy to send another one. Thought we were done.
Nope... she sends the following e-mail - not only to us but also to her FRIEND (talk about an etiquette breach!):
"Kids...could you have made a mistake and NOT addressed it properly as Mrs. Michael [Last Name]? That's what was on the list I sent you. Bernie is short for Bernardine, but Mrs. Michael [Last Name[ would have been the correct addressing. Queen Mum/Etiquette Guru"
Okay, first off, of course we freaking sent it to the address you sent. Second, regardless of the first name, it would have gone to the same address, Third, SERIOUSLY!?!? "Etiquette Guru" Gimme a freaking break!
My super-awesome, amazing fiance knew I was embarassed and PISSED. So, separately and without copying me (although he later sent me a copy), he sends his mother this:
"Meagan is under enormous stress, not feeling well, having a complicated pregnancy and a multitude of work issues. From now on, let's address any ettiquette or planning issues just to me and I'll loop her in, if I feel it's appropriate."
Oh yes, this is the man I want to live my life with.