A long story, hopefully, short! My fiance and I got engaged in April (Easter) after dating for a few years. I knew I wanted a fall wedding and we didn't want to rush the plans and go into debt, so we opted for an October 2011 wedding giving us more time to save up and plan. I asked my sister to be my MOH, which she was happy about. Then, in early August, she got engaged to her GF (she's a lesbian) whom she had only been seeing for a few months! Of course my parents and I think this is far too soon as they barely know each other, but she's a big girl (3 years old than me). Then she decided that their wedding was going to be three months before ours! Of course, this upset me, as I didn't want our family (who don't have a lot of money) to have to travel for two weddings within a few months, but I kept mum. This also puts a financial strain on me, as she's asked me to be her MOH, which I'm happy to do, but it's an expensive role that is coming right when finances are tight due to our own wedding. But I knew we could work it out and she's my sister, so it's what I'll do. But then they decided to get married in a location that has the same catering company as our venue (our caterer has the rights to only four locations in the city and my sister picked one of the other three when there are tons of other possibilities - we live in a fairly big city). When I asked her if she would respect our menu, as we had already settled on the things we wanted (yes, I know we're doing it early, but my fiance is a chef and food is a big thing for him), she got mad at me and said she'll do whatever she wants. It just seems to be one thing after another. She never asks me how our wedding plans are going and as my MOH, she should be involved. And when we were talking about BM dress shopping for my wedding, she got mad about having to spend money, talking about how she's broke (she's not)! I just don't know what to do. My sister, as I mentioned, is not a girlie girl and she's not into weddings and she isn't exactly Miss. Manners or big on 'the proper thing to do', which I get, but the way she's going about everything is really starting to get to me. Am I being crazy and selfish? I want her to be happy, but at the same time, it just seems from the way she's acting, she isn't thinking about me.