So one of my BMs is in the process of trying to plan my bachelorette party. It's being planned for the thursday before my wedding when at least some of my OOT friends will be able to be there. So, I put together the list of invitees, etc., when my mom voices a concern about my EIGHT YEAR OLD niece, the flower girl, feeling left out. She e-mailed my sister her concerns, and my sister responded that she was also concerned about my EIGHT YEAR OLD niece feeling left out. From my BACHELORETTE party. Um. WTH is all I have to say to that. I love my niece and all but since when has it ever been considered appropriate to have people under the age of twenty one, let alone EIGHT, at a bachelorette party? I mean, seriously? I apologize for all the caps, but as you can see, I'm kind of annoyed.
So, I proposed that we do kind of a two part day. The first part would be at a spa where my niece could be included. The second part would be dinner and drinks, which would be adults only. My sister just responded that she thinks my niece would still feel left out if she didn't get to go to dinner. Since her husband wouldn't be in town yet and therefore not available to watch my niece, she proposed that she and my niece just stay for dinner and then leave on the early side since she wouldn't want to stay up late anyway. First of all, my parents and plenty of other family will be in town who can watch my niece. Second of all, maybe I just don't get it because I'm not a mom, but I don't understand, why an eight year old should be able to dictate all of our plans? Third of all, even if my niece is there for dinner I'm still worried that she's going to be left out. I mean, I'm going to be catching up with friends who I haven't seen in years. I don't see why an eight year old would enjoy our conversations about our lives, jobs and relationships. She's an extremely smart kid. And she'll want to be included in the conversation. She'll also want to be able to understand the conversation, and she'll most likely either get frustrated when she doesn't understand everything or be asking my sister ever 2 minutes what everyone is talking about. I just don't see how it would be at all enjoyable for her.
Ugh. I still feel badly about saying no, she can't come to dinner at all, and I'm not entirely sure how to word it to my sister. And I guess I could always just catch up with people over drinks after they leave. What would you ladies do?