So, while people agree that it was kinda rude, they are also telling me to just let it slide.
My FSIL, who is marrying my FI's brother before our wedding, has technically stolen my wedding. I've been reminded several times of how she wants the perfect wedding, but I figured she had an idea of what that would be.
Over a month ago she asked about what plans we're making for the wedding, then admitted she still didn't have anything planned. I told her how we want to do it at a friend's vacation house. They recently redid their large barn which would work well for reception & we were going to do reception on their lovely new deck which is next to a small vineyard.
She said it sounded beautiful & we didn't talk much since. Yesterday I found out from our FMIL that she just made the choice to have their wedding at her family member's house. They're going to do the wedding outside on the deck & then move into the barn for the reception.
Are you kidding me?! She didn't even mention it to me that she's taking all my ideas & putting on what was supposed to be our wedding, before us.
Question is, do I bring it up with her & explain that it's frustrating that she seems to be copying our wedding? Let it go, throw on another farm wedding after her & hope it's better? Or change up our plans?