My husband and I planned our wedding for February 2010. Our infant daughter had to have an unexpected and urgent kidney surgery that we found out about two weeks prior. We ended up immediately going to the courthouse and getting married since there was no way to continue with our plans and I think we just kind of wanted to be married in case of the worst.
Our daughter is fine. We're happily married. Our families, however, have been sort of.. disappointed? with our decision, though understanding. They've asked us about renewing our vows and it's something we'd like to do.
In my mind, we would renew our vows in front of our families, just siblings, parents, grandparents, and of course, our children. Then we'd host a dinner. No bridal parties or cake cutting or anything like that. Mostly just an emphasis on vows, preferably with a priest and then a really fantastic dinner.
Is this tacky, for lack of better word? I'm not attempting to be a bride. I don't want gifts or a big ordeal. I just thought it would be nice to reaffirm our marriage after the things that have happened. I've lurked on this board enough to know that some will say we made our choice and we should live with it. We did and we have. I don't feel cheated out of a wedding and we made the right choice.
If a vow renewal is not tacky, is it necessary to do it on our wedding anniversary precisely or do I have some maneuvering room? Furthermore, should we wait until five years or some other "big" anniversary to do this? Appreciate any feedback.