OK ladies - I'll try to make this as short a possible. We have a MAXIMUM CAPACITY for our reception of 140 people. The room can fit more but then we'll all feel like sardines, so that is my target number.
The problem is... as it stands my guest list has 212 names. I've cut out everyone I can think of -- any more and people are going to start getting offended. Now... of those 212, there are 60 people that fall in to the category of "probably won't come" -- that meaning, my mom or his mom want to invite them but don't *actually* expect them to make the trip. But - in the words of my mother - "we need to invite them because they'll send gifts, and I've sent gifts for all of THEIR kids' weddings." LOL!
I'm not sure I want to bet the farm that these people won't attend! I'd have a heart attack if they all started RSVP'ing.... without those 60 the list is down to 152 which is manageable because there will be some no-shows.... but my question is... would it be kosher to send a more general "announcement" to those 60 people rather than a specific "you're invited"???