Sorry for asking so many questions lately but this one is a big one for me. I was never sure if my FI's family would throw us a shower for his side of the family and I already have one of my BM's and her mom throwing one for my side of the family and familyfreinds. Well last night my FI asked his mom if she knew of anyone on his side throwing a shower and she said that's the MOH's duty, which I understand, but she is also throwing me a coed party for our friends and helping out with the family one for my side. As far as I knew, the FI's side is also supposed to throw a shower for that side of the family. Every wedding I have been to or known of that is how it is done.
So, my question is how do I approach the situation again without sounding rude. After she said that's the MOH's duty, she asked if I was having a shower and I responded with yes but a BM is throwing it and she asked if my mom was coming (obviously she is) and I said she would come to that shower too. All she said back was let me know so we (her sister and mom) could carpool down. Well....I didn't mention anything about inviting them and that isn't all of his side of the family I would want at a shower. He still has everyone on his dad's side and more people on his mom's.
I just don't want one huge bridal shower and I really don't want to put my MOH and BM into throwing a shower for close to 80 people! possibly more. Am I wrong in thinking that his side should throw a seperate shower? If I am I almost don't want to have one from them or have them at the other just for the fact of having a giant one. HELP!!! BTW, his mom is kind of awkward to talk to so I never want to hurt her feelings or anything and he gets very sensitive when I ask questions about his family in these situations (he's not very helpful).