I was the bride that cancelled her July Jackson Hole wedding this month due to my father's shortened time frame on earth. They were possibly going to overlap which would just be too hard. There is much relief all around.
So now I learn that the "town doctor" is who gave him the time frame in months, while his actual oncologist said that doctor should NEVER have given him a time frame to begin with and the oncologist found that poor practicing and thought the guy should be fired. (I know my dad and he probably badgered the poor guy til he coughed up some number.) The town doctor has not been an active part of my dad's cancer treatment, only the oncologist. We didn't know this until last week.
I also was told by my mother that my dad begged for the doctors to give him a surgery or more chemo and they refused (my dad probably told her this), when in fact the oncologist insisted they do more chemo and my dad actually decided no more treatment, his body is done (my mom actually went to this doctor appointment last week so I know this part was true). I kind of felt like we cancelled the wedding with misinformation - although it's probably for the best anyway. I haven't talked my dad about any of this. I do it all through others since dad does NOT like to share anything about his health in general.
So given that things are even more uncertain, and also I have been researching our NEW (and 3rd) location lately. I don't think we have the luxury of planning this last minute (which was one of the benefits of just having the two of us) since the area is popular and the summers are short. I really don't want our 3rd plan to be squashed because we didn't plan in advance.
We'd want ideal weather, plus this particular chalet that goes no later than August, so we'd pretty much have to plan this for August, even though my Jackson Hole wedding was for July.
I DIDN'T MAKE THIS PART CLEAR!
THERE ARE NO GUESTS INVITED
WE ARE ELOPING
Would you just go ahead and plan for August? I mean there are no venues/caterers to book this time. Just a special hotel for the wedding night and a photographer (then all the other hotels for the rest of the trip). I think we can get out of it easily should things all go down the week of our wedding. It is impossible to gage my emotional state too.
Maybe we just won't tell family until it gets closer. I just hate planning something, telling people about the plans, it all falls through, and then having to go tell them all it's changed.
We kind of wanted 2012 if you're wondering why not wait another year, but nothing can happen right now as I've got a thesis to crank out in the next 4 weeks and our Canadian destination is still under snow. So in one month we should probably start reserving hotels and booking the photographer.