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pzaveczpzavecz
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I'm not quite sure how to address the envelope for our invitation for one of our guests.  She has a boyfriend that is the father of one of her children and the one she is expecting.  By the time of the wedding, this new baby will have been born (but probably won't be by the time I send out invites next week).  How should I address the invite regarding the baby that is not born yet?  This is how I addressed the STD (before I knew she was pregnant):

Guest's name
Guest's boyfriend's name
Name of child

Should I find out the name of the baby too?  What's the proper way to do this?
Married since October 14, 2012 - Best Day Ever! Wedding-2
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  • DramaGeekDramaGeek member
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    edited August 2012
    I think etiquette would say you can't invite someone who isn't born yet, but I don't see a problem in doing something cute like 

    Sally Jones
    John Smith
    John Smith, Jr, Baby Smith

    Or, you could just address it to the three who're already born and include a note (or tell her via email or phone) that she is welcome to bring the baby as well.
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  • pokepoke27pokepoke27 member
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    I would just address it to the baby as well. I think it would be cute. Not sure if that's 100% correct from an etiquette standpoint though.

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  • jessicabessicajessicabessica member
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    I would not address it to the baby--in fact, we were in this situation, and we did not address it to the baby (not born at time of invitations, but born by the time of the wedding).  Kind of a superstition thing, I guess.  We made it clear to the couple that the baby would be welcome through word-of-mouth.  
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  • MrsGandthebeagMrsGandthebeag member
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    What about Ms. Sarah Smith
    Mr. Jim Jones
    and family?
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  • LiLe422LiLe422 member
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    I would not include the unborn child's name on the invite.   Some people are REALLY superstitious about addressing things/buying things for unborn babies.
    I would however shoot them an email or include a note with the invitation letting them know baby is invited as well.
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  • pzaveczpzavecz
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    Thanks everyone for the advice.  For those of you said not to include the unborn baby's name on the address yet, would I leave them out in the guest number on the RSVP card too then?  I have a spot where I will be pre-filling in the number of people invited as to avoid confusion ("___ seats have been reserved in your honor").  I was going to include the unborn baby in that number, but if some people are superstitious about the name, would they maybe be superstitious about me including them in the number too?
    Married since October 14, 2012 - Best Day Ever! Wedding-2
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  • DramaGeekDramaGeek member
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    I wouldn't include the baby in your reception count because, well, you won't include them in your reception count, kwim?  I would do 3 seats have been reserved and then just let them know via phone or email (or if you see them in person) that of course they're welcome to bring the baby.
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