0 Bridesmaids and 2 groomsmen?

chevychick95 · August 2012

Fiance wants 2 of his childhood friends in the wedding party and I do not want anyone as bridesmaids.

Will it look odd?

I would rather have neither bridesmaids or groomsmen but Fiance is dead set on these 2 being in the wedding..

I plan on just having them as ushers before the wedding, walk down the aisle alone and either stand by him or sit.

.. oh and please no negative remarks or suggestions on no bridesmaids.. it is just my choice

adamar15 · August 2012

NEGATIVE REMARK

midgetthemighty · August 2012

Let him have his two groomsmen. You can still have no bridesmaids. It will be just fine.

ahhhitsshannyn · August 2012

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[QUOTE]NEGATIVE REMARK
Posted by adamar15[/QUOTE]

I actually LOLed.

What kind of negative remark would someone have about no bridesmaids? I had none, and no one has ever said anything to me about it.

carolemb · August 2012

I agree. I think it'll look fine. Our groomsmen walked separately from our bridesmaids anyway.

Maggie0829 · August 2012

If you don't have BMs, your wedding won't be real and/or legal, people will side eye you, think you are weird and friendless!!! Was that negative enough?

But really OP, it is fine if you don't want a bridal party, absolutely nothing wrong with that because it is your choice. If your FI wants to have two friends stand on his side, good for him, because that is his choice.

And the looking weird part...not in the slightest.

chevychick95 · August 2012

I have no issue with him having the groomsmen. It is his wedding as well. I want him to be happy

I was just reading other posts that were considerably older about this subject and there were a lot of "it is so sad you dont' want anyone to share your day with you" "what about your mother" "what a lonely life you must have" comments.. which is no where near the truth lol

I am worried people will talk about the off balance of it. expecially if they stand by him.

Maggie0829 · August 2012

Let people talk. The one's that are rude and/or point it our are just a-holes.

jessicabessica · August 2012

If you would rather they didn't stand by him, could you have them sit close to the front and come forward to do a reading, hand you the rings, etc.? We didn't have a wedding party, but we had our siblings and some friends involved in the ceremony. I think it's fine to just have the 2 groomsmen stand by him, though, too.

LiLe422 · August 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_0-bridesmaids-and-2-groomsmen?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:e72ae490-4225-4118-a0d9-72fec8e24438Post:28913f58-1aaf-4bce-b949-e70d66d2c339">Re: 0 Bridesmaids and 2 groomsmen?</a>:
[QUOTE]I have no issue with him having the groomsmen. It is his wedding as well. I want him to be happy :) <strong>I was just reading other posts that were considerably older about this subject and there were a lot of "it is so sad you dont' want anyone to share your day with you" "what about your mother" "what a lonely life you must have" comments.</strong>. which is no where near the truth lol I am worried people will talk about the off balance of it. expecially if they stand by him.
Posted by chevychick95[/QUOTE]

Yeah, I get it, but you can really tell people how to post.

Let your FI have who he wants with him and you have who you want with you (even if its nobody.) Who cares what other people may have to say.

ahhhitsshannyn · August 2012

Haha, my mother would probably be the last person I would wanted as a Bridesmaid. I guess I just live a sad, lonely life.

chevychick95 · August 2012

haha you ladies are great! you put my worried fears at ease. Thanks

Simply_Caitlin · August 2012

I'm of the opinion that the people who would be talking about you *gasp* not having bridesmaids, would be the type of people to be looking for something to talk about. Screw them, do whatever makes you happy.

smartlypretty · August 2012

I think it's completely fine. I'd have them usher and then sit in the front row.

hansa11 · August 2012

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[QUOTE]I have no issue with him having the groomsmen. It is his wedding as well. I want him to be happy :) I was just reading other posts that were considerably older about this subject and there were a lot of "it is so sad you dont' want anyone to share your day with you" "what about your mother" "what a lonely life you must have" comments.. which is no where near the truth lol I am worried people will talk about the off balance of it. expecially if they stand by him.
Posted by chevychick95[/QUOTE]

I had no interest in having bridesmaids and my husband had two groomsmen and no one said anything negative about it. A few people insisted I absolutely had to have at least someone stand up for me, but every reason they gave me (like needing someone to hold my flowers or be a witness) was easily accomodated by someone other than a bridesmaid. My brother got these honors, a male and female friend came with me to get my hair done and the female friend helped me get dressed. So other than having to explain myself a lot, it was a non-issue. We didn't look off balance and no pictures were ruined.

chevychick95 · August 2012

thank for your input hansa11. greatly appreciated.

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