Sometimes I really hate her too.
My parents are VERY acrimoniously divorced. Like, 18 years of constant court battles, with at least 3 more to go. Here's the trouble. My mother is clinging to her "RIGHTS" as a mother-of-the-bride, and insisting, truly insisting, that she be invited to the bridal shower that my dad's family would like to host. I mean, drag down, blow out, cat fight insisting that it is her right and entitlement as the mother of the bride to be there. I get that, but why is this whole divorce problem so hard to comprehend. I mean, she doesn't like them. They don't like her. She's not welcome at any of their houses. And if she shows up, they'll leave. Plus, I won't be able to enjoy myself at all because I'll be pulled in 2 directions. I have to spend time with my dad's family, because they're hosting, but they don't like my mom. My mom will sit and sulk in a corner that no one is spending time with her, and then I'll feel obligated to spend all my time with her.
She and my sister have already told me, in no soft terms, that I'm the worlds worst daughter for not insisting my mother be invited to my dad's family shower.
This is why I told all my family that I didn't want a bridal shower. No one listened to me. They told me I was being silly, and that a bride MUST have a bridal shower, It's tradition. Can't we just please screw tradition for the sake of my sanity?