I know that plenty of people ask this question but I am in need of advice. First off we are getting married June 16. We have been more then helpful when it comes to the wedding party. We bought all the shoes and the dresses for everyone and all the shirts for the guys (beach wedding not wearing tux's) My MOH had to have this $300. dress she did not want to go to the same place as the others she found a place to go to and made the appointment and told me about it after and I had to rearange my schedule to go. Let that go not a big deal. So she finds the dress that she wants then already before the dress is even ordered is talking to the saleswoman about the alterations she wants done. The only reason she needed me there was for the money. Never asked my opinion on the dress or anything about the dress. The alterations she wanted done were more then the dress she wanted to order a dress and have it completely designed her way. They told her they can alter the dress not remake it so to speak. She was measured for the dress and that was the end of the dress issue. When the others were looking at davids's for their dresses the MOH drove an hour just to be there then had the nerve to tell my 18 year old daughter who is 5'7" 105 lbs that she looked fat and alot of the dresses she has tried on don't fit her correctly. My daughter as well as the rest of the wedding party was heated. (My MOH Is the biggest out of them all. Not that size is an issue i'm not a small person myself) The woman helping us had to excuse herself and later pulled me aside to apologize for walking away she said she loves her job and almost said something inapropriate to the MOH. As I was paying for the 5 dresses the MOH was in my face and the woman taking my payment had to say a few times excuse me may we finish. At this point all but one of my wedding party went to wait outside. That same night before she met up with us she gave my FI a sob story and left her very uncontrolable child with him. I took the other girls out to dinner to try and calm everyone down about all the things the MOH had said and done and had to explain that she really is not that bad I have known her since we were 9 and everyone was ready to give her another chance. By the time I got home atlease 2 hours later she still had not picked up her son my FI was on the verge of pulling out his hair. That hole Fiasco was done and over with and I was happy. The caterer had asked me suggestions about the food and she pipes in well I have already been calling around to have a pig roast I don't think we will be needing you! At this point I am getting upset and make it clear that I am not traumatizing any children and HE IS CATERING MY WEDDING! She got angry and didn't like that idea. So on to the past two days UGH she picks up her dress and it is to big she tells the woman and the woman says im sorry we either measured you wrong or wrote down the wrong numbers we can take care of this for you. SHE TELLS HER NO! She takes the dress and leaves with it then calls me back and says well you are paying for my dress to be altered I need it taken in hemmed and I want to add flutter sleeves. REALLY! Then tells me that the weekend before my wedding she planned a spa day and to tell everyone that they have to be there at that day and time. (how about checking with people first?) Then this was the thing that got me she suggested to me that I should help pay for the spa day for everyone. I did not want a bridal shower we live together and I am one of those people I have what I need I don't want people going out of their way to get us things when we are all set. I have family that is unable to come to the party that is asking about a bachelorette party that I was looking forward to but she wants to do the spa day! Sorry about the book but I need some serious advice on this situation. She has not done anything at all in helping to plan other then trying to knock the caterer out of the way. She has not helped with anything and the only time I hear from her is if money is involved. I do not want to kick her out of the wedding party it's coming up in June and I am just so lost. Any help would be greatly greatly appreciated!