Another Weird Message

melntaitt · February 2012

Bridal Store on voicemail: Hi Mel, this is Nancy. Not sure what's going on but the matron of honor called and cancelled her dress order today. Call me back!

Hilraythebride · February 2012

Ek, did you get in touch with the MOH. Hope it all works out!!

melntaitt · February 2012

@1CoveJack: I didn't call her a racist, I asked her about some shady scenario she was alluding to that I didn't understand so I asked her to clarify.

I did touch base with her and she said she was completely, "weddinged" out which I don't get since I haven't asked her for any help. She chose the dress and asked that it be added to my account at the bridal salon since she didn't have the money to pay for it upfront - which I offered to pay for it and she said no.

I told her that I get that weddings can be stressful and she said, "Well you were the most difficult person in my wedding party, so how does it feel?"

Again, I told her that it was stressful for me - not her - and I didn't want to burden her so if she really felt that she didn't want to be a part of the weddng, I understood. Pulling your dress is a pretty big deal and at this point it can't be added back. The order is a minimum standing of 14 weeks without a rush order so even if she did, it would be way too close to the date.

So we're in limbo - she's apologetic but saying our wedding has too many events to attend. I told her, well you're invited to all of them as the MOH, but you're not obligated to RSVP yes, I suppose.

She said she wants to be in the WP but she doesn't like the color and wants to get something else - fine.

My FMIL flexed and said she could be invited to the shower, but she doesn't want to go - again, fine.

My girlfriends at work are having a bachelorette party she doesn't want to attend - fine.

The spa day with my mom she wants to be invited to - I told her no, because that's a mom and me day and she got upset. Oh well.

So here we are - I'm beginning to think my elopement to Vegas idea should have been explored more in the beginning...

**O-Face** · February 2012

Wow. I think this falls under "she's just not into you". Wipe your hands and walk free. Bummer.

amywatson · February 2012

Sounds like a lot of drama over nothing to me. Is it possibly that she is being like this out of revenge? Just wondering because of her saying this:
"Well you were the most difficult person in my wedding party, so how does it feel?"
Do you know what she meant with that comment? If nothing happened then her behaviour is very strange!

zsazsa-stl · February 2012

Did she have a sinister plot in infiltrate your wedding and then make sure she was a pain in the tail? If so, then very well played, crazy MOH. Very well played, indeed.

But ditto O-Face. Let her go. It's not worth it.

melntaitt · February 2012

@Amy - to be honest, I hardly remember her wedding because it was sooo fast. She was engaged in March 2005 then married June 2005. The most difficult I remember being was the "spiritual retreat" we went to and we had to eat organic greens and sleep on the floor for 2 days.

Other than that, I was very supportive and never really questioned her ideas or actions. I remember going dress shopping for her wedding but it wasn't a choice it was "You're wearing this - Visa or cash?" In any case, the pain in tail comment is eerily accurate lol

**O-Face** · February 2012

Hold up. She made you sleep on a floor during a "retreat" and won't wear a dress you pick? No.

Walk on.

ElleB87 · February 2012

I agree with PP's, walk away from this box of crazy. Was she this much of a PITA when there weren't weddings involved?

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