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  • baystateapplebaystateapple member
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    Loopy -- I wrote a list out the other day and he was fine with everything.  The only disagreement we had was over the bed.  We finally agreed that he could have the queen if he helps pay for a new queen bed for me.

    Unfortunately, today did not go the way I thought.  I told him that I had found an apartment, and he seemed okay at first.  Then he got really upset.  I guess it's finally hitting home for him now.  He was really quiet for a long time, and then brought up that he wants us to actually go to counseling and "try to work things out".  Two weeks ago, he wanted separation counseling and that was that.  Now I'm wondering if it was just fear talking, or if he really meant it.  I'm thinking the former, unfortunately.
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  • NickiveganNickivegan member
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    Good evening! Elliot made amazing guacamole, I can't believe I had room for an actual dinner. Bay, I can help you pack and unpack. I love unpacking. And wine makes a great new apartment gift. And I love wine...as you know.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_evening-15?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:e711033e-9d6a-4954-8838-de5822acf51cPost:c1f88a51-761f-4d5f-80f9-79a7c1cd1dc3">Re: Evening!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Bay - I think it's totally unfair that he's acting this way. He made his bed, <strong>y'all agreed to let him keep it</strong>, and now he needs to lie in it.
    Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]
    Okay, this gave me a much-needed laugh.
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    I'm glad you found a place Bay. Good luck with moving and everything. I hope it goes well for you.

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    Hi ladies.

    FINALLY  - no more guests for a while.  Well my brother is coming on the 20th, but he is here on business so he is not staying with us and he only gets one free night.  So I'm not really counting that.

    Good news/ bad news - I was rejected from another job.  Boo !  But just under the rejection email was an email requesting an interview. YAY

    I applied for an position on craigslist and didn't know the business name.  Well, the email reply come from none other than the owner of our favorite bar who happens to own 2 small hotels. One of the hotels is on my block.  SCORE.  I'm trying not to get my hopes up too much. He really likes DH and I, so I'm hoping that will help my cause.  I'm sure when he saw my email/resume he was like "Hey I know her".  








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    Bay: I am glad you found an apt!  and rachers that was funny!
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  • ArynBakerArynBaker
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    Yall, I know this off topic but I am literally apalled at how many people in my state voted for Amendment One. It's horrible.
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    [QUOTE]Bay - I think it's totally unfair that he's acting this way. He made his bed, y'all agreed to let him keep it, and now he needs to lie in it.
    Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]

    <div>Haha  - nice one</div>

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  • baystateapplebaystateapple member
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    Good luck, Lynda!
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    Bay do you mean you think it was fear saying he wanted to work things out, or fear that said he wanted the separation counseling? Either way, I am glad you're doing things that you need to do. 
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    Bay - I'm so sorry your DH has you on a see-saw of emotions right now.  You are much stronger than I would be.   

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    [QUOTE]Yall, I know this off topic but I am literally apalled at how many people in my state voted for Amendment One. It's horrible.
    Posted by ArynBaker[/QUOTE]

    <div>That's the one Muni's sig is about right?</div>

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    [QUOTE]Bay - I think it's totally unfair that he's acting this way. He made his bed, y'all agreed to let him keep it, and now he needs to lie in it.
    Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]

    <div>I agree with Rachers on this one.</div>
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    Oh Rachers, I would love to see your giant sunflower!
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  • strlzfan11strlzfan11 member
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    Speaking of jobs, I haven't heard anything back from my interview last week.  I got the impression they were in a hurry to fill the position, but none of my references have been called yet.  It's possible they haven't interviewed the other 2 candidates yet and I realize that HR has to determine what the offer is which could take a while, but I hate the waiting game.

    Bay- your H is acting like a douche, which I know you already know.
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    Good luck Lynda!
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    [QUOTE]Yall, I know this off topic but I am literally apalled at how many people in my state voted for Amendment One. It's horrible.
    Posted by ArynBaker[/QUOTE]

    I think a lot of people probably didn't read the fine print on it.  Did it pass?
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Evening! : That's the one Muni's sig is about right?
    Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE]

    <div>Yup. It's banning gay marriage, which is what most people talk about. But it also is taking away common law marriages and their benefits as well as defining domestic abuse as only occuring between a husband and a wife. </div>
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Evening! : I think a lot of people probably didn't read the fine print on it.  Did it pass?
    Posted by strlzfan11[/QUOTE]

    <div>It's not official but it's looking like it will pass. Very upsetting. </div>
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  • NickiveganNickivegan member
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    I want half that flower! Sunflowers make me so incredibly happy. I wish I could have a garden now and fill it with them. The bright yellow and the way they face the sun is awesome.
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    [QUOTE]Lynda - sending good vibes your way! Hopefully everything continues to fall into place with the hotel job. And definitely yayyy for no more houseguests. I told H after hosting this last party over the weekend, no more get togethers for awhile.
    Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]

    <div>Thanks.    </div><div>
    </div><div>From April 5 until May 8 with had 10 different guests.   That is just way too many in that short period of time.</div>






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  • raes19raes19 member
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    Anyone know how to get latex paint out of clothes? I volunteered for a clean up day today, and had no idea we would be painting and ruined a perfectly decent pair of pants.
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  • baystateapplebaystateapple member
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    Honestly I don't think he really thought this through, at all.  Also, I've been a wreck over it for the last month, which probably made it easier for him to be tougher.  But today I was very calm (I refuse to cry in front of him anymore at this point, it's been a month), and I think that, coupled with the apartment and knowing that I'm moving in June, really hit it home for him.

    Hey, if he wants to work things out, that's fine with me.  But I'm still moving out, and he's going to need to really show me that he wants to make things work.  Some sacrifices are going to have to be made, counseling is a must, etc.  I have a feeling he's not going to want to work things out under those circumstances.
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    Fingers crossed for you, Lynda!

    Bay!  You decided on an apartment!  Is it the one you looked at last week?
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    In Response to Re:Evening!:[QUOTE]Anyone know how to get latex paint out of clothes? I volunteered for a clean up day today, and had no idea we would be painting and ruined a perfectly decent pair of pants. Posted by raes19[/QUOTE] according to my Hs entire wardrobe you don't get it out. That's not to say that Googling might be able to find you a bit more.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Evening! : It's not official but it's looking like it will pass. Very upsetting. 
    Posted by ArynBaker[/QUOTE]

    Yikes!
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  • raes19raes19 member
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    [QUOTE]Honestly I don't think he really thought this through, at all.  Also, I've been a wreck over it for the last month, which probably made it easier for him to be tougher.  But today I was very calm (I refuse to cry in front of him anymore at this point, it's been a month), and I think that, coupled with the apartment and knowing that I'm moving in June, really hit it home for him. Hey, if he wants to work things out, that's fine with me.  But I'm still moving out, and he's going to need to really show me that he wants to make things work.  Some sacrifices are going to have to be made, counseling is a must, etc.  I have a feeling he's not going to want to work things out under those circumstances.
    Posted by baystateapple[/QUOTE]

    Good for you for standing your ground. He needs to know that he can't just do what he wants and expect you to roll with it.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re:Evening!: according to my Hs entire wardrobe you don't get it out. That's not to say that Googling might be able to find you a bit more.
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    Yeah, my dad told me it wasn't coming out, but I was hoping someone might have some secret paint remover he didn't know about lol
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  • musicalsunlightmusicalsunlight member
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    It sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too, in this instance, Bay. He just wants to play it all by his rules which isn't cool. I'm glad you're sticking to your guns. 
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Evening! : Yup. It's banning gay marriage, which is what most people talk about. But it also is taking away common law marriages and their benefits as well as defining domestic abuse as only occuring between a husband and a wife. 
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