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i've had it with FMIL!!!! (kind of long vent....sorry)

justinnmandyjustinnmandy
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on 12-2 i emailed fmil and asked her to get me names and addresses of FI's family because I needed to send STD's out ASAP. a week later I hadn't heard from her so I had FI call her and ask....she said she'd get them on tuesday to me through email.  Tuesday came....still nothing. i called and left her a voicemessage and got no response. On wensday she called to talk to our boys about what they wanted for christmas, I asked if she was able to get me names and addresses she responds with "when u order the invites I'll get them for you!!!" REALLY??? so again i told her i have STD's sitting here with postage ready to go out so i need this info...not only that, it would be nice to have a count in mind! so she said she'll get them at their christmas party which is only her side.....so we'll see what happens....FI and I are really almost over it.....if they come they come....why stress i guess!!! they live 7 hours away if anyones wondering why I dont just go get them...its a crazy situation!!! i never thought I'd pray for future families names and addresses to arrive in my inbox everyday!!!! thanks for letting me vent ladies!!!
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    bethsmilesbethsmiles member
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    Couldn't your FI figure this out? Seriously just have him call up whoever in his family needs an STD and get their address.


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    LisaChris2011LisaChris2011 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_ive-fmil-kind-of-long-ventsorry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:7494fdfc-7668-4243-befa-9b004a4753b3Post:57bba129-345a-49e5-bb10-a87b55e8c44a">Re: i've had it with FMIL!!!! (kind of long vent....sorry)</a>:
    [QUOTE]Couldn't your FI figure this out? Seriously just have him call up whoever in his family needs an STD and get their address.
    Posted by bethsmiles[/QUOTE]

    Ditto. 

    Also OP, why are you asking from your FMIL family addresses at the 11th hour?  Knowing her generation, how she is, etc., a month's notice in advance would have been the more courteous and respectful thing to do.
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    Blueyed228Blueyed228 member
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    This is something your FI should be dealing with since it is his mother.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_ive-fmil-kind-of-long-ventsorry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:7494fdfc-7668-4243-befa-9b004a4753b3Post:f80c4ede-942e-4540-9f01-9df675e00ae2">Re: i've had it with FMIL!!!! (kind of long vent....sorry)</a>:
    [QUOTE]This is something your FI should be dealing with since it is his mother.
    Posted by Blueyed228[/QUOTE]

    <strong>I agree with this!</strong>
    And if she doesn't get the list to you guys... too bad, so sad, looks like those folks aren't invited.
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    J&K10910J&K10910 member
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    You should have asked for the list earlier.  If she doesn't get you the info you asked for, you have two choices.  FI can call everyone up and find out himself, or you can just not send them STDs.  Either way, I don't see a big deal.

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    crose29crose29
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    Do you and FMIL get along well? If not, I agree with the others in saying to give this task to your FI. Otherwise you will just add unnecessary frustration.
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    trix1223trix1223 member
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    Are you talking about STD's or invites?  Frankly, if it's STD's you're making way too big a deal of this.  STD's are not all required.  You can still send people an invitation, even if you don't send them an STD. 

    What you can't do is the opposite:  you can't send someone an STD and not send them an invite.

    STDs are a relatively new invention of the wedding industry (by relatively new, I mean the last decade).  For years, people have planned and executed weddings without STD's.

    So calm down.  This is not a hill worth dying on.  As long as you have addresses in time for the actual INVITATIONS, I think you're making more of this than is necessary.
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    justinnmandyjustinnmandy
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    k.....thanks....i think since we just started planning and theres only a little over 4 months, and all our guest are atleast 4 hours away i felt the STD's were important. I seriously thank u for keeping me in check lol. 
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    Juliet212Juliet212 member
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    Still - you need that list. This can be a tricky situation and it could start problems with your FMIL and yourself. AS others stated, I would def have FI get on top of this. He should be able to help you put together a rough list. Tell you FMIL that if you don't have the dates by x date then they won't be invited.
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