how does everyone feel about this...

aRachel21 · February 2013

Hey guys,

I've seen these signs on etsy and pinterest (see attached photo) and at first I thought it was a cute idea. I was going to put it on the place card table, with pictures of our grandparents. But now I'm kinda second guessing it, cause I don't want our wedding to be a memorial. How does everyone else feel about this?

beardownbchs · February 2013

Personally I think it's a little much. Like you said, you don't want your wedding to be sad. You can put a memorial part in your programs - this would be less obvious, but still very nice. If you do want to do something like that, I would run it by the people closest to the deceased. If unexpected, something like this may trigger emotions and they may break down.

AddieCake · February 2013

I agree with Bear. Too much!

thejucheidea · February 2013

Too much.

CallaLily25 · February 2013

I agree...I think it's a little too much.

kmmssg · February 2013

Put me in the "too much" camp also.

aRachel21 · February 2013

Thanks! "Unpinning" it right now...

ljsquintz · February 2013

You could just put pictures of your grandparents on their wedding days.

Lored · February 2013

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[QUOTE]You could just put pictures of your grandparents on their wedding days.
Posted by ljsquintz[/QUOTE]

This is a sweet idea.

Jen4948 · February 2013

Yeah, too much.

RamonaFlowers · February 2013

I know you already changed your mind, but just in case somebody else opens this thread and thinks it's a good idea: don't do it.

I was blessed enough to grow up with not only my parents and grandparents, but even my great-grandparents, whom I was very close with. I lost my great-grandmother (My "mother's monther's mother") just months before my first anniversary, and it was absolutely one of the most devastating experiences of my life. It's been over 3 years, and I still have trouble coming to terms with it sometimes.

I feel like if she had passed before my wedding (Which I was so grateful that she was able to attend), that a sign like this would have somehow trivialized her death, because it's trying to be "cute" ... and there was nothing "cute" about the loss I or my family felt when she left this world.

cbrown828 · February 2013

My grandmother will be the only grandparent attending the wedding. I don't have a relationship with my dad's family, and FI's grandparents have all passed. We want to do something with it being "too much" or a downer also. Also, it's not just grandparents that we will miss on our wedding day- I have an uncle and cousin I was close to who have both passed on. So we are giving my grandmother a bouquet of white flowers to carry as she is escorted to her seat, and before she sits she will place the flowers in an empty vase that is sitting off to the side of the altar. In the program it will say something to the effect of "[Grandma's name] carries flowers in honor of those who could not be here today.]

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