I feel like I'm anxious for nothing but here it goes:
Soo my FI's family is from the "hood" a little country hood . My family is Caribbean but we are no strangers to struggling and the hood ourselves. My mom (love her dearly) is a bit snobbish and extra religious( no radio, cable, cursing,etc) and I am really nervous about her meeting his mom and his family. I can admit I'm still trying to be comfortable around them myselves. His family lives in Houston and he's only taken me there once in 5 years of dating , my family lives in Miami, NY, and MD and he has gone to at least 4 family gatherings (large family think 14 aunts and uncles plus spouses and all the kids).
Here's the deal my mom says EXACTLY whats on her mind at all times and his pretty offensive at times. I've spoken to her about it but hey she's 50+ and isnt about to change. In August when my FI graduates from grad school I invited FMIL to come dress shopping with my mother and I ( fmil has no daughters and Im marrying her oldest son). I already went once with my mother AND am going once again with my mom and 6 aunts but I really wanted to include FMIL in some small way. This will be the first time the moms meet. Problem is I'm scared my mother will act snobbish towards her or not play nice. Am I being paranoid or do you think I should wait and arrange another time for them to meet? How do you think would be best to introduce them?