I am 18 days away from my wedding. Needless to say, I am stressed. Not only am I dealing with wedding related things, but I have also been getting our house together (with the help of my awesome parents and fiance), and am currently running my family's business because my family is away spreading the ashes of my uncle. The house was completely destroyed, so we've literally had to gut it, and redo EVERYTHING. The business is not too bad, however I am by myself, and cannot get anything wedding related done while I am here. So I am a little on edge.
My FMIL has been completely absent throughout the whole wedding planning process, even after I made attempts to involve her. I asked her for her guest list from the beginning, and she never gave me one, so my fiance and I put our heads together and tried to invite as many of her "people" (for lack of a better word) as we could think of. Obviously, we had to cut some due to budget restraints.
When my fiance graduated the police academy in November of 2011, I asked her to be more involved, and even offered to take her with me to pick out my dress and her dress, and tried to involve her with the bridal shower. She was a no show to all of these events. Did not meet to look for my dress, and never made a date to pick out hers. And she didn't show up to my bridal shower (and it didn't go unnoticed by many of the guests at the bridal shower). Yet, after the bridal shower she complained to my fiance how I was leaving her out of the wedding planning and am not involving her at all. WTH?!
This woman claims to her son (my fiance) that she loves me, however, she snubs me every chance she gets. I've called her to ask her opinion and she never answers, I even emailed her as a last resort. She speaks English, but whenever she is around me she refuses to speak English, only Spanish (I don't speak Spanish).
And now, 18 days before the wedding, she informs my fiance that she has invited 15 extra people to the wedding, and complained to my fiance that I never asked her for a list. WTH?! My parents are paying for the whole wedding AND the rehearsal dinner, and my fiance's parents have never offered to help financially at all. I never expected them to, but now when she invites 15 extra people, I feel like she should. We cannot afford 15 extra people.
My fiance has a "whatever" attitude about this whole thing. He doesn't want to get involved, and I think that is stupid. He should be defending me. Regardless of that, I am pissed at this woman. Plainly put, if she crosses me on my wedding day, I will knock her out.
