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Shower Etiquette

donnaflooddonnaflood member
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I've been with my FI for 4 years and have only met  his childhood friends a few times. Even though they really haven't kept in touch much throughout the years he decided to ask them to be in our wedding since they were very close growing up (3 of the 11 groomsmen). Should their wives be invited to my shower even though they don't know me? I don't want them to feel obligated to come but I also don't want to offend anyone by not inviting them. Help!

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  • ManwaithielManwaithiel member
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    Exactly.
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    If you don't know them, I would think you should talk to your FI about this. While you don't want to appear gift grabby, on the other hand, they may be delighted to attend your shower.
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  • donnaflooddonnaflood member
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    That would make sense if it wasn't like pulling teeth for my FI to do anything for the wedding. We are getting married in 5 months and he still hasn't asked all of his groomsmen to be in the wedding. He's a procrastinator. I didn't know if there was etiquette on inviting the groomsmen's wives.

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  • jmkesjmkes
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    Ask him to check and see. Give him a deadline.  If he doesn't do it then don't invite them and if he gets mad tell him  you gave him multiple requests to ask.  If you don't know them and y'all don't hang out I don't see why you would be offending them by not inviting them.  FI was going to be in a wedding this summer (it got called off) I have never met the bride or groom and I wasn't invited to any showers.  It's no big deal.
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  • TurtlesAllTheWayDownTurtlesAllTheWayDown member
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    I probably wouldn't, honestly, if you don't really know them.
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  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
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    I wouldn't invite women that you don't know to a bridal shower. Usually the shower guest lists includes the brides closest friends and close relatives of the bride and groom.
                       
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  • trix1223trix1223 member
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    If he hasn't asked them yet, maybe he could reconsider.  11 groomsmen?  Wow.  That's a huge WP.
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  • btartaroindbtartaroind
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    i agree, i wouldn't ask them. you dont invite every woman that is invited to the wedding to the shower... it is just for close family/friends/coworkers...
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  • TheCranberryTheCranberry member
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    I wouldn't invite them.  They probably wouldn't want to come anyway.  I wouldn't want to go to the wedding shower of a woman I'd never met.
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  • mayerelmayerel
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    It might be a nice way to get to know them since they may be in your wedding photos and around after the wedding. But if they're not people you and FH hang out with a lot, I really wouldn't worry about it...there's some family I'm not inviting to the shower!!

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