Hi Everyone- I lurk these boards once in a while, but rarely post. My wedding is at the end of August in the state I grew up in. I recently moved away and took a new job so that I could be with my fiancee (or however it is spelled).
Anyway, my sisters are my MOH and BM (and my cousin is a BM too). My mother asked me to include my sisters and because of the culture I come from I had to do it. I do not have a strong relationship with either one of them, but am VERY close with my cousin.
So my MOH sister lives on the other side of the country and cannot do any thing for my bachelorette party. She called my cousin and emailed my BF and asked them to do it. On Monday I picked a date and asked my BF to send an email out to everyone with a save the date and tentative location. Well.... my other sister was furious and sent me a nasty email asking me why she wasn't involved and that the date I picked is the date she was throwing herself a BDay party and that she can't afford to go to the location that I chose, she was never consulted when she should have been, etc... you get the point. She sent this email to my best friend and me. Very hurtful, rude, and nasty calling us names, etc. She ended the email by saying she wants nothing to do with the wedding, me, or any of the parties and that she will no longer ba a BM (my MOH sis dropped out once too because I didn't consult her on the wedding colors- don't ask). I have no idea what to do here. I feel that she attacked us and has now excluded herself completely. I think she could have handled the situation differently and it could have had a different outcome.
Honestly though, I don't care who comes to what and what they want. I really just don't want the drama but my mother keeps calling me upset and telling me to fix it (I can't change the date, I travel for work and that was the only weekend in July/beginning of August I am not travelling). Any advice, suggestions? Was I really inconsiderate by just picking the date and location that worked best for me? BTW-I work a full-time job (50+ hours a week) and we just moved in to our new home a few weeks ago- there are just so many things on my plate that I don't need/want this kind of added stress. I wish we just eloped!