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  • I'm sure the parents are well aware of their disabled child's tendancies and are prepared to handle them accordingly.

    After my grandmother passed away, we lived with my uncle that had Downs for several years until he passed away.  Although he was generally well-behaved, he did have the mentality of approximately a 5-year-old, so he could have tantrums sometimes, but we were always prepared to handle them and tried out best not to disrupt anything.  We were lucky though that most people were very understanding and never tried to exclude him from anything because of his disability.

    I'm aware that for people who have never spent much time with Downs children might be cautious about their behavior, but even if this child does make a few disruptions, he'll probably make it up to you because they are so exceedingly sweet.  I wouldn't worry about it too much, invite the family to your wedding and trust that the parents can handle their child.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_no-kids-not-an-option-what-to-do?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ea08de1d-981c-496d-95a3-edacf70ff970Post:1aaac0a2-f97d-45bb-9678-48d32617a0f2">Re: 'No kids' not an option, what to do?!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: 'No kids' not an option, what to do?! : Why is this a safe assumption? When other potential brides want to have a child-free wedding, this board generally supports that decision, saying that some events aren't appropriate for children, parents who insist that their children come are acting entitled, many parents don't properly supervise their children, etc. Why does all of that go out the window if the child in question has an extra chromosome?
    Posted by sarabellam[/QUOTE]

    Is the OP bellyaching about the other kids?  NOPE.  Just the Downs Syndrome kid.

    EDIT: And I find your post really annoying, Sara.  You know full well what the OP is going for but you attack me for standing up for the kid.  Thanks for that.

    EDITEDIT: And no - not everyone on this board supports the idea that children are disruptive and parents don't have a clue.  Many of them have come back after their weddings and said that kids cried but they never even heard them.  I think there's just as much "get over it" feelings on this board as there are "Kids are disruptive and parents are rude."  I wouldn't say your argument is universal in the slightest.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: 'No kids' not an option, what to do?! : Is the OP bellyaching about the other kids?  NOPE.  Just the Downs Syndrome kid. EDIT: And I find your post really annoying, Sara.  You know full well what the OP is going for but you attack me for standing up for the kid.  Thanks for that.
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    [QUOTE]I'm seeing a lot of posts about people not inviting kids and how that's ok etiquette-wise. However , I'm getting married in Italy and apparently here, if you invite a couple, it's assumed the kids are welcome too.  Of course, ANY child can have their 'moments', not just a special needs child.  But in particular, one of my fiance's best friends has an 8 y.o. son with Down's syndrome. Though I like the child very much, he cannot sit still and randomly shouts and grinds his teeth.  I'm concerned especially about how things will go during the ceremony.  SO, any suggestions on how to handle this?  Is it ok to have  a baby sitter even during the ceremony?  Or any tactful way to tell the parents to please exit with a noisy child???!!!  And does anyone have great 'kid entertainment' ideas besides just hiring a sitter that could keep all attending youngsters entertained during ceremony and even reception???!!!  Thanks in advance!
    Posted by GwynnieThePooh[/QUOTE]

    JIC.

    Our church hosts the special needs mass for our diocese every 3rd Saturday of the month.  Yes, some of the attendees make noises during mass, but you really don't even notice unless you are trying to notice.  OP - you will be so focused on your FI during the ceremony, I doubt you will hear anything else. 
  • I help with the Special Olympics every year and while some do make faint noises they have always been well behaved and vey sweet. I cannot say the same for some of their "normal" siblings
  • We have a "special needs" kid invited to our wedding.  His parents are sort of in denial that he has trouble in social situations.  Regardless, he'll be on the invitation.  Anyone who judges him has their own set of issues they have to work on.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to 'No kids' not an option, what to do?! : JIC. Our church hosts the special needs mass for our diocese every 3rd Saturday of the month.  Yes, some of the attendees make noises during mass, but you really don't even notice unless you are trying to notice.  <strong>OP - you will be so focused on your FI during the ceremony, I doubt you will hear anything else. 
    </strong>Posted by OliveOilsMom[/QUOTE]

    At my ceremony I heard my niece who was 18 months old at the time start to cry exactly when our friend the officiate started talking.  I literally busted out laughing because 1) her timing was impeccable and 2) it was funny.  (PS - I am certainly not saying that a child who has down's would be funny if an outburst occurred, just providing an example of what happened on our wedding day and how it did not bother me in the slightest.)

    OP, crap happens.  If the child you are so worried about doesn't have an outburst during your ceremony then a cell phone not turned to vibrate by a guest could and cause just as much "disruption".  You need to learn to go with the flow and at the end of the day you are still going to be married and that is what is important. 

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    [QUOTE]EDIT: And I find your post really annoying, Sara.  You know full well what the OP is going for but you attack me for standing up for the kid.  Thanks for that.
    Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE]

    I guess your definition of "attack" and mine vastly differ. <shrug /> It just seems to me that there's a double standard going on. You are correct that some here ignore the interruption of children during the ceremony. Others, however, do not. To me, the only reason the OP is being so thoroughly castigated is because the child that she is most concerned will be disruptive has Down syndrome. To me, that's no less a legitimate concern than worrying about Cousin Bobby disrupting, whose parents are azzhats and don't discipline the child and let him run amuck.
  • Coming from someone who is close with kids and peers who have Downs and Autism, I can say for sure that all parents of children with special needs recognize what those needs are. They also know how to handle situations in which their child is having a "moment". Rest assured that the moment a parent (of any child, not just one with special needs) is invited to a wedding, they immediately wonder how thier child will behave during the ceremony. "Will they act up? Will I need to sit close to the end of the pew so I can take them outside if they throw a fit? Do I need to just hire a babysitter?" All kids lose it at times. All parents fear this in social situations.

    Please understand that young kids with Downs are aware of social situations and the need to act a certain way. It may be difficult but they are just like other kids who have trouble sitting still and things like that. It can be hard for them to remember but that doesn't mean that just because this child has Downs that he or she will not be able to sit still and quiet during the ceremony. You never know, the child with Downs could sit there quiet as mouse but another guests' child could decide to throw a tantrum right in the middle of the ceremony. Its the chance you take when you invite family.

    For the record, my cousin is autistic and he was our ringbearer. He did a great job and was quiet and happy throughout our (extremely long) ceremony.

    Be assured that worse things will happen on your wedding day. No wedding goes 100% smoothly and you will have a million other things to worry about.

    Know that when you are saying your vows, it won't matter what is going on. If a child is crying, you probably won't hear it. You will be thinking of only one thing at that moment in time. Also in some cultures, a child crying during a wedding is a sign of good luck.

    Also, a wedding is not about the bride. Sorry princess. A wedding is about a two people who love each other asking other people to witness them taking vows to be together for the rest of their lives. Those witnesses are there to support the couple. The reception is about celebrating the love of those two people and to thank the community for coming out and witnessing their union when they just as easily could have been anywhere else, and not having to wear Spanx. So, please get over yourself.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: 'No kids' not an option, what to do?! : I guess your definition of "attack" and mine vastly differ. <shrug /> It just seems to me that there's a double standard going on. You are correct that some here ignore the interruption of children during the ceremony. Others, however, do not. <strong>To me, the only reason the OP is being so thoroughly castigated is because the child that she is most concerned will be disruptive has Down syndrome.</strong> To me, that's no less a legitimate concern than worrying about Cousin Bobby disrupting, whose parents are azzhats and don't discipline the child and let him run amuck.
    Posted by sarabellam[/QUOTE]

    No it is because she is wanting us to give her a way to not invite that child to the ceremony.  It would be different if she was trying to find a way to tell everyone that their child is not invited to the wedding, but she is wanting to leave this child off the guest list because she is concerned he may ruin her ceremony.  And that her reasoning that this one child will be the one to disrupt the ceremony is because he has a disability is horrid.  That is the issue at hand.

    You are right that anyone could disrupt the ceremony but she is not concerned about everyone else, only this one child because he has a disability and she thinks that because of that he will 100% disrupt the wedding.

    I am sorry but if any bride lets a small disruption ruin their ceremony that is on them for thinking it is such a big deal and the end of the world.  It is not.

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: 'No kids' not an option, what to do?! : I guess your definition of "attack" and mine vastly differ. <shrug /> It just seems to me that there's a double standard going on. You are correct that some here ignore the interruption of children during the ceremony. Others, however, do not. To me, the only reason the OP is being so thoroughly castigated is because the child that she is most concerned will be disruptive has Down syndrome. To me, that's no less a legitimate concern than worrying about Cousin Bobby disrupting, whose parents are azzhats and don't discipline the child and let him run amuck.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: 'No kids' not an option, what to do?! : I guess your definition of "attack" and mine vastly differ. <shrug /> It just seems to me that there's a double standard going on. You are correct that some here ignore the interruption of children during the ceremony. Others, however, do not. To me, the only reason the OP is being so thoroughly castigated is because the child that she is most concerned will be disruptive has Down syndrome. To me, that's no less a legitimate concern than worrying about Cousin Bobby disrupting, whose parents are azzhats and don't discipline the child and let him run amuck.
    Posted by sarabellam[/QUOTE]

    Where do you see a double standard? If you read the title of the thread shes not trying to have a child free wedding, shes trying to exclude one child due to being special needs. If she asked how to tell everyone no children then people would tell her how to do it and support it. She is not asking that, she wants to tell one couple that their child is not welcome because of her fear of them disrupting her ceremony which is wrong! Either care about all child disruptions and have a kid free wedding or get over it and realize that special needs or not any child can disrupt a wedding and just have to go with it.
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  • edited April 2013
    Am I the only one super confused as to why OP seriously thinks she's going to hear teeth grinding from 20 plus feet away? I'm considering the options of superhuman hearing via being an alien, mutation, or being bit by a radioactive rabbit.
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    [QUOTE]Am I the only one super confused as to why OP seriously thinks she's going to hear teeth grinding from 20 plus feet away? I'm considering the options of superhuman hearing via being an alien, mutation, or being bit by a radioactive rabbit.
    Posted by Peledreamsofrain[/QUOTE]

    <div>She doesn't want any of the focus off of HER. It would disrupt her other guests from paying attention to HER. C'mon Pele.</div><div>
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  • In Response to Re:'No kids' not an option, what to do?!:[QUOTE]In Response to Re:'No kids' not an option, what to do?!:Am I the only one super confused as to why OP seriously thinks she's going to hear teeth grinding from 20 plus feet away? I'm considering the options of superhuman hearing via being an alien, mutation, or being bit by a radioactive rabbit.Posted by PeledreamsofrainShe doesn't want any of the focus off of HER. It would disrupt her other guests from paying attention to HER. C'mon Pele.Or: Posted by kmbryant2413[/QUOTE]

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    [QUOTE]Am I the only one super confused as to why OP seriously thinks she's going to hear teeth grinding from 20 plus feet away? I'm considering the options of superhuman hearing via being an alien, mutation, or being bit by a radioactive rabbit.
    Posted by Peledreamsofrain[/QUOTE]

    Because the wedding is all about her, duh!  And if that kid so much as breathes heavy she will be all...

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  • In Response to Re:'No kids' not an option, what to do?!:[QUOTE]In Response to Re:'No kids' not an option, what to do?!:Am I the only one super confused as to why OP seriously thinks she's going to hear teeth grinding from 20 plus feet away? I'm considering the options of superhuman hearing via being an alien, mutation, or being bit by a radioactive rabbit.Posted by PeledreamsofrainBecause the wedding is all about her, duh!nbsp; And if that kid so much as breathes heavy she will be all... Posted by Maggie0829[/QUOTE]

    What's up with knotties trying to kill me with laughter today? There's only so many times I can stop breathing, people.
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  • I'd be far more annoyed at an adult's cell phone ringing during the ceremony or one of the bridal party chomping/popping on gum

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    [QUOTE]Am I the only one super confused as to why OP seriously thinks she's going to hear teeth grinding from 20 plus feet away? I'm considering the options of superhuman hearing via being an alien, mutation, or being bit by a radioactive rabbit.
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  • How do you know these guests are even going to come to your wedding in another country?  That's a pretty big "if" in my book.  Just invite them and deal.
  • I don't usually post much here, but I had to reply to this one.
    1. My youngest son is on the austism spectrum.  I am 90% sure he's going to have a "moment" or ten and will randomly yell at someone or something.  BUT I don't care, I would never have my wedding without him there. AND since only our families and friends for whom we care greatly will be in attendance, it won't be an issue since by extension if someone cares for me, they have to understand and care for my son, or I wouldn't keep them in my life.

    2. If I were invited to a wedding by my "best" friends, and discovered they were having children there, but didn't want my son there because he might have a "moment" or didn't think I knew when or how to take him out of a room during an outburst, I'd rethink the friendship.

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  • One of the children invited to our wedding has severe autism.  While she is often very withdrawn, she is also prone to fits of screaming or talking loudly to herself.  The only thing I did "special" with her regarding our wedding was to call her family and let them know that the venue could accommodate her special dietary needs if they gave me details about what she could and couldn't eat.  I spent zero seconds worrying about her during behavior during the ceremony, because I knew her mom would step out with her if necessary.  She was perfectly behaved during the ceremony, and during the reception, she was the life of the party on the dance floor!  

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    [QUOTE]I'm seeing a lot of posts about people not inviting kids and how that's ok etiquette-wise. However , I'm getting married in Italy and apparently here, if you invite a couple, it's assumed the kids are welcome too.  Of course, ANY child can have their 'moments', not just a special needs child.  But in particular, one of my fiance's best friends has an 8 y.o. son with Down's syndrome. Though I like the child very much, he cannot sit still and randomly shouts and grinds his teeth.  I'm concerned especially about how things will go during the ceremony.  SO, any suggestions on how to handle this?  Is it ok to have  a baby sitter even during the ceremony?  Or any tactful way to tell the parents to please exit with a noisy child???!!!  And does anyone have great 'kid entertainment' ideas besides just hiring a sitter that could keep all attending youngsters entertained during ceremony and even reception???!!!  Thanks in advance!
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    </div><div>As a mother of a 5 year old with Down Syndrome I am appauled and disgusted with the fact that you would want to not invite you FI's friend child to the wedding.  Just so you know, my son will be my ring bearer and his best friend who also has DS will be my flower girl.   In case you did not know, children with DS are more typical than they are different.   I am sure that the parents of this child and any other child that is in attendance know how to handle their children.  Next time do you research before pointing out a childs disability!  A child will be a child and just because they have DS does not mean that is the reason they can't sit still or grind their teeth.  </div>
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  • Wow.  Considering how much support I've seen for "no kid" weddings, I certainly wasn't expecting such hate mail.  
    I truly apologize to mothers of special needs who have been offended by my post.  I should not have made the point-in-case on just one child.  I'm very aware all kids (and even ADULTS) can cause disturbances.  I have seen the child I spoke of numerous times and he AND his sister (2 years older than he) get on each others' cases a lot and holler a lot so actually the pair of them, as well as any other kids (or adults) could potentially cause a scene. 
     I DO want to be as inclusive of all as possible and was hoping for great kid-friendly suggestions to keep things interesting for them, not just for the adults.  

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    [QUOTE]Wow.  Considering how much support I've seen for "no kid" weddings, I certainly wasn't expecting such hate mail.   I truly apologize to mothers of special needs who have been offended by my post.  I should not have made the point-in-case on just one child.  I'm very aware all kids (and even ADULTS) can cause disturbances. <strong> I have seen the child I spoke of numerous times and he AND his sister (2 years older than he) get on each others' cases a lot and holler a lot so actually the pair of them</strong>, as well as any other kids (or adults) could potentially cause a scene.   I DO want to be as inclusive of all as possible and was hoping for great kid-friendly suggestions to keep things interesting for them, not just for the adults.  
    Posted by GwynnieThePooh[/QUOTE]

    To the bolded: That's called being siblings and one would hope that the parents know how to deal with their children during a ceremony if something were to happen.

    And yes, we are very supportive of no-kids weddings.  I had one myself, with the exception of my niece and nephews, who were in the WP.  But we can only go by what you wrote and you singled out this one child with Down's who you didn't want to attending your wedding.
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    [QUOTE]Wow.  Considering how much support I've seen for "no kid" weddings, I certainly wasn't expecting such hate mail.   I truly apologize to mothers of special needs who have been offended by my post.  I should not have made the point-in-case on just one child.  I'm very aware all kids (and even ADULTS) can cause disturbances.  I have seen the child I spoke of numerous times and he AND his sister (2 years older than he) get on each others' cases a lot and holler a lot so actually the pair of them, as well as any other kids (or adults) could potentially cause a scene.   I DO want to be as inclusive of all as possible and was hoping for great kid-friendly suggestions to keep things interesting for them, not just for the adults.  
    Posted by GwynnieThePooh[/QUOTE]

    If you were truly concerned about all possible disruptions then you would not have specifically chosen to talk about the one guest with Downs. And if you were trying to give us an example of what you were concerned about and chose that example out of all the other possible ones, then that was a very poor decision.

    You said yourself in this post that anyone COULD be a disruption, including adults. I think if you are this concerned about noise or other distractions, you should probably not have any guests at your wedding. Distractions happen. Kids cry, cell phones go off, people sneeze, etc. That's life.


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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_no-kids-not-an-option-what-to-do?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ea08de1d-981c-496d-95a3-edacf70ff970Post:db481088-bc59-4058-9902-388cdf7f6a67">Re: 'No kids' not an option, what to do?!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Wow.  Considering how much support I've seen for "no kid" weddings, I certainly wasn't expecting such hate mail.   I truly apologize to mothers of special needs who have been offended by my post.  I should not have made the point-in-case on just one child.  I'm very aware all kids (and even ADULTS) can cause disturbances.  I have seen the child I spoke of numerous times and he AND his sister (2 years older than he) get on each others' cases a lot and holler a lot so actually the pair of them, as well as any other kids (or adults) could potentially cause a scene.   I DO want to be as inclusive of all as possible and was hoping for great kid-friendly suggestions to keep things interesting for them, not just for the adults.  
    Posted by GwynnieThePooh[/QUOTE]

    <div>OP...I think I understand what you were trying to say in your first post, but it obviously came across in a different way. I have had to learn this lesson myself: Read what you wrote a couple times before you post, and imagine reading it from the persective of someone who doesn't know you at all. Make sure you say exactly what you mean. Getting flamed sucks but I hope you stick around because you can learn a lot from everyone. </div>
  • I suggest you research "Entertaining Children at Weddings" and similar google searches, OP.  Whatever entertainment is offered for children is likely to be appropriate or adaptable for all children, regardless of ability.  I also suggest you think long and hard about what people here have said.  You sounded like a total douche.
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