so after the dilemma with my mom and her wanting to throw a separate shower for her side, she has finally came to her senses after i talked with her and explained it was a lame idea cus everyone needs to mingle at the wedding anyways. so she is helping my moh plan the shower and its at my moms house next sunday yay! everything is coming together im glad that drama got cleared up quickly cus i do not have time for that right now its too close!