I was just wondering how other brides felt about this...
I have four bridesmaids. My maid of honor lives 5 hours away. Another one of my bridesmaids is getting married a month before me. When planning festivities, I deliberately asked these bridesmaids what dates worked for them first because they have the hardest schedules to work around and are two of my best friends (one for 14 yrs and one for 12 yrs kind of best friends.)
Now, I have this other BM, we shall call her G. I worked in bridal for years and saw a lot of brides get upset about their BM's having their own lives, like getting engaged or losing weight or having a baby. I vowed not to be this bride. So, when G decided to enter a weight loss challenge this year that started with her piling on 25 lbs over the holidays so she could lose 50 total this year, I did not even bat an eye. I encouraged her to lose weight. I leant her workout videos. I only once expressed concern about her dress needing alterations. She handled it really well, promised that she was prepared to pay, and that was that.
Then it came time for the bachelorette party planning. I am getting married September 7 and am in my other BM's wedding on Aug. 10. I cunsulter her schedule and my schedule and there was only one day available for a bachelorette party that wasn't three months before the wedding. I set the date with my MOH. Then I started getting messages. Come to find out G has signed up for class that is Saturday and Sunday of every other weekend for the whole year. It just happens that my wedding and my bachelorette party fall on these weekends. She asked if we could pick another date because she didn't want to miss more than one class, which she was missing for the wedding. My MOH politely explained that we were working around twoo weddings, two showers, another bachelorette party, and a 5 hour drive. G was not happy. MOH was not happy. I should also point out that the class gets out at 5 on Satruday and starts at 11 on Sunday. She could easily come out for a few hours.
A couple of weekends ago, G and I went to the bar and then back to her place and were hanging out. She cornered me. She was like, "I don't know what you've heard about your bachelorette party but I wont be there because MOH planned it on a weekend that I specifically told her wouldn't work for me." I replied with a simple, "I'm sorry. I know you're going to have to miss it but we had to work around.... " G was still not okay with it and told me a bunch of super secret planning that I was going on but only the things she knew would stress me out.
Am I being rude by scheduling the bachelorette on a weekend when one of my BP members can't make it? I feel like I did my best with scheduling and liek it's not fair to ask me to have my bachelorette party three months before the wedding. I am perfectly okay with G not making it, though a little disappointed because I like spending time with her. What do you think?