Stepchild part of ceremony

Re: Stepchild part of ceremony

• s-aries8990 member

  

  May 2013 edited May 2013

  ehhhh... I would leave him out of the wedding ceremony. Your son is 4 and is not really old enough to realize what he's actually doing.
  
  Have FI and son make a man-date before the wedding, maybe even the day of to go out for breakfast, and FI can give him a keepsake for the day - maybe like a tie-pin or a pocket watch that he can grow into? Just inscribe To Son, From FI 11/22/2013
  
   Just please keep it separate from the wedding.  It's not really appropriate to include the son. Maybe just in your vows to each other, mention honoring and cultivating a family?
  

   

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• itzMS member

  

  May 2013

  In Response to Stepchild part of ceremony:
  [QUOTE]Hi, I am getting married in a few weeks and my fiance would like to do a special little vow/recognition of my son who he will be adopting after the wedding. My son is 4. He's got a cute little "vow" he is going to say to him but I feel like he should give him a little something as a keepsake as well (kind of like the rings are a symbol of our marriage). Any ideas? I looked at little neclaces or something for boys on thingsremembered but then I don't know what to inscribe on it. His new name? Few short words of love or wisdom??
  Posted by krash023[/QUOTE]
  
  I'm also not a fan of children being involved in marriage ceremonies.
  
  I know everyyyyy bride thinks their marriage is going to last forever. We all know that's not true, just from a statistical standpoint.
  
  It can very easily be interpretted by a child that they played a role in the marriage not working out because they were a part of the vows.
  
  No. Just no.
  
  Have FI take your son shopping for a toy or book he wants. No 4 year old is going to appreciate or remember getting an engraved item from Things Remembered.

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• s-aries8990 member

  

  May 2013

  In Response to Re: Stepchild part of ceremony:
  [QUOTE]In Response to Stepchild part of ceremony : I'm also not a fan of children being involved in marriage ceremonies. I know everyyyyy bride thinks their marriage is going to last forever. We all know that's not true, just from a statistical standpoint. It can very easily be interpretted by a child that they played a role in the marriage not working out because they were a part of the vows. No. Just no. Have FI take your son shopping for a toy or book he wants. No 4 year old is going to appreciate or remember getting an engraved item from Things Remembered.
  Posted by itzMS[/QUOTE]
  
  THIS TOO. Children think in totally round about ways and end up blaming themselves for their parents actions (been there, done that).
  
  Make this something speial between FI and son.

   

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• Jen4948 member

  

  May 2013

  Don't do this as part of your wedding ceremony.  That needs to stay between you and your FI. 
  
  Many guests don't feel comfortable listening to "vows" between children and their new stepparents.  Save any "vows" between your child and your FI for in private.

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• artbyallie mod

  

  May 2013

  Vows for or to children are not appropriate. A wedding is between two adults only.

  

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• NOLAbridealmost member

  

  May 2013

  In Response to Re: Stepchild part of ceremony:
  [QUOTE]Vows for or to children are not appropriate. A wedding is between two adults only.
  Posted by artbyallie[/QUOTE]
  
  This. Give your son a great gift (toy, etc. he'll appreciate that day) and your FI can get him a watch or pocket watch or some other heirloom type piece for when he gets older.

  
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• Simply Fated member

  

  May 2013

  I'm not a fan of incorporating kids into the ceremony, either. ESPECIALLY because adopting him is so special, it probably deserves it's own celebration on a different day. I think he'd appreciate that more. You can give him a keepsake then, too. Keeping the events separate enhances each of it's specialness, IMO.

  
  

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