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Married Ladies: If you could have a do-over...

What would you do?

This is not a question about wedding regrets, because everyone has stuff that goes wrong, but more aesthetic and little planning things. Like, "oh, that's a neat idea, too bad I didn't think of that." Kind of a "second best" type thing. 

For example, I LOVED my wedding last year, and wouldn't trade it for the world, but if I had a do-over and was back in the planning process, I would probably have a fall wedding instead of one in June, so that the weather wouldn't be 90 degrees. 
And since my do-over would be in the fall, I would have different colors. Instead of having green and purple, I would have brown, and maybe some pink accents, and a nice metallic champagne color. 
And I would expand my bridal party to include one or two more people that I was on the fence about. 
And take engagement pictures. Because they're fun, and we never did. 
And wear different shoes. Because I love shoes, and mine were boring. 

So what would you do differently?
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  • nothing really.   We had weather issues, but I can't change those.






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  • I laugh with H that I want a PPD in reverse. I had the big beautiful wedding and I loved it, including my big poofy ball gown. But now I want a second wedding with a short white dress, in our home, with just a few people, and cake.

    Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't trade my wedding at all, but the little intimate one sounds nice now.
  • Can I say that I would have replaced the caterers / catering staff, but keep the venue they provided? That was really my only problem. 

    Otherwise I would have extended the party another hour (at least) and put in more effort to visit all my guests. 
  • I would have a very small, intimate wedding. Only close family and friends we hang out with on the regular. No or a very small WP. Possibly a DW. I would keep our photographer because he was awesome. I would probably wear the same dress because I loved it.

    I would play contemporary music we like for the ceremony instead of classical, and I would get married outside or in a really pretty venue that feels like it is outside instead of our Church (but I would still use our officiant).


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  • I'd stay at a hotel the night before so if the building decided to burn down again I wouldn't have to throw my dress out the window to save it...
     
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  • I'd stay at a hotel the night before so if the building decided to burn down again I wouldn't have to throw my dress out the window to save it...
    wait, what?
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  • I'd stay at a hotel the night before so if the building decided to burn down again I wouldn't have to throw my dress out the window to save it...
    Do tell...
  • I'd stay at a hotel the night before so if the building decided to burn down again I wouldn't have to throw my dress out the window to save it...
    Oh my God!!!

  • For those of you that weren't knotties last year my apartment burnt down the night before my wedding. I threw my wedding dress along with my mother's, grandmother's and 2 bm dresses out the window to save them. It was caught on tape and we made the evening news.  I can PM you the story if you would like to see it. I seriously wish I was joking.
     
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  • OMFG. Yes, send. That's so awful. Were you able to save anything else or did you lose everything? I' so sorry.
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    We got lucky. The fire was on the other side of the building. All we lost was a rug. But my family had to spend our wedding night and our first month of marriage living with us because they building was uninhabitable.  That was fun but it could have been much worse.
     
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  • Hmmm... now that we've experienced a 'wedding'?

    Take the money, elope, and tour the crap out of Europe ans Asia. The honeymoon would be the big cost.
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  • omg i found it. That's incredible. holy moly.
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  • Hmmm... now that we've experienced a 'wedding'? Take the money, elope, and tour the crap out of Europe ans Asia. The honeymoon would be the big cost.
    Wow... this is an interesting idea!  M's family really wants the wedding, though.  I do, too, but I don't think I'd mind doing exactly what you suggest!!!
  • I wanna see that news story Hoboken.
  • I would have just not gotten as worked up about all the details as I did. They didn't matter in the end and everything worked out fine anyways, so if I could save myself (and H) all the unnecessary stress and worry I would.
  • I would have not kept myself to such a strict budget for my dress. I went in with a $1000.00 budget and I refused to go over that.  It wasn't for any specific reason, other than the wedding overall was very budget minded, and it felt weird to spend such a large percentage of the wedding on my dress. 

    If I had it to do over, I would have just looked at everything (well, maybe not over 4-5K) and decided based on what I loved, instead of some arbitrary number in my head.
  • @StageManager14-Heck yes to Star Trek.  So much win.  I'd want Spock to marry me.  "Live long and prosper", how epic?  FI would have loved to do a Klingon ceremony.

    My wedding is still 2 months away, and I already know what I wish I could do differently.  Smaller guest list.  We're inviting about 180, and I just don't wanna do it anymore.  I'm sure I won't regret it at all, but it's just too crazy and overwhelming right now. 

     

  • @StageManager14-Heck yes to Star Trek.  So much win.  I'd want Spock to marry me.  "Live long and prosper", how epic?  FI would have loved to do a Klingon ceremony.

    My wedding is still 2 months away, and I already know what I wish I could do differently.  Smaller guest list.  We're inviting about 180, and I just don't wanna do it anymore.  I'm sure I won't regret it at all, but it's just too crazy and overwhelming right now. 

     

    Funny this should come up! My H spent the last 3 months prior to his wedding trying to convince his friends to attack him after the ceremony, as an ode to Klingon weddings.

    Seeing, however, as we are all pasty feeble nerds, it would have probably not been much of an ode.
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