I am trying to figure out who needs to be tipped and how much at our venue. Our venue includes a "coordinator", who didn't really do much yet but I guess the day of she will be the one to coordinate things (or at least I hope she does). She is in charge of getting the room ready, and we met with her twice. We also were required to get the food from the venue, so our total bill included: ceremony location fee, reception room fee, food, and bar. It was all charged a "service fee" of 21%.
So with that in mind, what who would I still need to tip? I asked if servers were tipped (it's a plated meal) and she said no, but the bartender is. Is it just me or is that really weird? Does that mean it's not expected to tip the servers? (Just an FYI I like in CA so servers are paid AT LEAST minimum wage) If I should still tip them, what percentage would be appropriate? I'm used to tipping around 20% at restaurants but that is when they take my order, bring my drinks, etc. The escort cards have the meal selections and people will go to the bar for drinks so all the servers do is serve the food and clear the tables correct? Am I rude to think that doesn't need a full 20%?
Also, do I need to tip the coordinator or would that be included in the 21% service charge? Should I ask? I feel like asking about her tip would be weird... But since she is included I would have no idea where to start with a tip for her.
Thank you for your help!