Issues picking a ceremony site

Re: Issues picking a ceremony site

• duckie1905 member

  

  November 2009

  I can't say that either of you is going to be 100% happy with any compromise you make.  I would sit down and discuss non-negotiables with each other.  What are his reasons for not wanting a church ceremony.  What are you reasons for not wanting a religious-based ceremony at the reception (leaving out the issues with ceremony takedown because that really is not the point).  Will you absolutely not recite your own vows?  Will he never set foot in a church?
  
  I will say that I have been at many a wedding in which the ceremony took place at the reception site.  Your guests will not care if they have to look at 10 minutes of takedown while they are mingling.  I would expect that your reception site would be fairly used to the routine and could proabably either accomodate you in another area or have it taken down fairly quickly with little disturbance.
  
  One or both of you has to be willing to give in order to reach a decision.  You both will have non-negotiables.  The trick is figure out what they are an work with them to compromise.

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• mbcdefg member

  

  November 2009

  I wrote you a reply this morning but the Knot ate it in the big change.
  
  The most important factor about marrying in a church should be your spirituality and closeness to God, not how much it costs or how it looks or how the breakdown process goes. If you feel close to God in the church, then you should marry there. If not, then marry at the reception location or another secular location.
  
  For what it's worth, it's costing us less for our church ceremony than if we were to marry at our reception hall. But we wanted to marry in my church no matter what the cost was.

  

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• lilcassers member

  

  November 2009

  You can say your own vows at a church. You can also take pics at the church and at the reception site. Hell, you can take pics anywhere you want! My friend and her husband stopped at the place where he proposed and they took pics there right before the reception.

  

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• duckie1905 member

  

  November 2009

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_issues-picking-ceremony?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:10499208Post:1fc09e99-9f0f-4f12-a476-4c981d30d3ec">Re: Issues picking a ceremony site</a>:
  [QUOTE]<strong>You can say your own vows at a church</strong>. You can also take pics at the church and at the reception site. Hell, you can take pics anywhere you want! My friend and her husband stopped at the place where he proposed and they took pics there right before the reception.
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  Actually, this isn't true.  Some churches and maybe even religions do not allow you to say your own vows during the ceremony.  We were not (we wouldn't have anyway) and only had the option of the vows the church provided.

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