Maids and Usherette Jewelry Gifts

BlakeK · June 2010

I have three bridesmaids and four usherettes in my wedding party. I know typically the bride buys the jewelry for the maids, but I am wonderding if I should buy them for the girls who will be our ushers also. I don't know many people who have had female ushers so am just looking for some other input.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · June 2010

Why not?

jagore08 · June 2010

Actually, the bride doesn't have to purchase jewelry for the BM. You could just let them wear their own. IMO, it's a waste of money unless it's something nice they they could wear again and individualized (not personalized) for each girl. No one but the bride ever notices what jewelry the BM wear and, if the bride doesn't pick it out, sometimes the bride herself.

If you're going to go to Claires or some place like that where the jewelry is cheap then I would skip it and allow the girls to wear what they want.

Also, if you're requiring the girls to wear it for the wedding, it's not really a gift but part of their attire.

trix1223 · June 2010

ditto jagore. There's absolutely NO reason to micromanage down to the jewelry someone wears.

Reality check: what jewelry were the BMs wearing at the last 6 weddings you attended? Can't remember? That's because no one really cares about it except brides planning their own wedding.

And please, "usherettes" sounds like it came straight out of the 50's. If they're escorting people to their seats, they're ushers. Leave the ~ette~ off of it.

meamolly · June 2010

Ok I have seen many people saying the same thing about the jewelry over and over again, yet am very confused. In the weddings I have been in the gift was always the jewelry we wore the day of. It was not the bride wanting to dictate what she wanted, it was just a small detail gifted and was always something we could wear again.( I am wearing one of the necklaces in my picture) I say yes give them both the jewelry.

jagore08 · June 2010

All the weddings I've been in the jewelry I received was to wear on the day of the wedding. That's not really a gift, it's attire. I have never worn one piece of BP jewelry again because it just wasn't my style. It was too dressy and, honestly, cheap. Now, if they want me to wear jewelry they pick out just because they want us to look uniform (which I think is just silly) that's fine. Just don't expect that that will become part of my jewelry collection and I'll wear it over and over again. I feel it's like saying you can wear your BM dress again. We know the majority of the time that's not true unless the bride says pick any black dress you want. And if you've got that kind of bride she probably won't be buying matching jewelry for the BM.

If you truly want to give your BM a gift make sure they will definitely use it. I would get more use out of a tote than I would jewelry another person had picked out for me.

jagore08 · June 2010

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[QUOTE]I have three bridesmaids and four usherettes in my wedding party. I know typically the bride buys the jewelry for the maids, but I am wonderding if I should buy them for the girls who will be our ushers also. I don't know many people who have had female ushers so am just looking for some other input.
Posted by BlakeK[/QUOTE]

meamolly · June 2010

It seems the point that is being made is SOME people find jewelry not to be a gift if it is to be worn the day of. SOME people are just grateful for the gift (if you did not buy it, it is a gift). Do what you feel is right, and I guess you could also get them some other small thing. But to answer the question you asked you should get both groups a thank you gift as it is a common thing to do. Yes you can get them both the same thing.

jagore08 · June 2010

What I'm saying is that if you want to get a "gift" for your BM and ushers make sure it's something they will definitely like and use again. If they won't and you're doing it for the uniformity then you're waisting your money. And if that could be the case then you should think about what you've heard brides are supposed to do and think about what you think your BM would like and really use again.

aerinpegadrak · June 2010

I have no idea what jewelry my bridesmaids wore, it didn't really matter. I preferred to spend my money on a gift they'd individually appreciate and treasure.

Unless your friends are clones, I highly doubt that they all have exactly the same taste in jewelry, so it's unlikely that they'll all truly appreciate exactly the same thing.

BlakeK · June 2010

First of all trix I dont recall your input needed on me calling them Ushers or Usherettes. My Fiance and I think Usherettes is fun and that is what we will do.

Second of all I was just was looking for a simple 'yes get them the same thing' or a 'no get them something different'. I don't understand peoples need to rant about things instead of a simple answer.

Thanks Maemolly for your kind input.

jagore08 · June 2010

Figures.

elissa81 · June 2010

I was an usherette and wore my own jewelry for the wedding- I say if you want to get them jewelry do it if you can't afford it don't and they will understand !

By the way I like the usherette!!

Good Luck !!

BlakeK · June 2010

Thanks Elissa.

I was talking with my sister and she brought up a good point. They are all wearing whatever dress they want so they sound wear whatever jewelry they want. Since their dresses won't match no need match the jewelry.

Glad that is settled

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