So my fiance and I have been engaged for almost 4 months now and have yet to decide on a venue location.... until last week. I am 99.9% sure on the venue and plan to go in a couple weeks to see it set up for a wedding. Its a country club and we would be the only event that day. After spending yesterday with part of my extended family to get their input on cash vs. open bar they have made me more confused. They are telling me a cash bar is more than okay and suggested we pay for just a champagne toast. After reading articles on the knot, i feel almost like I have to do an open bar because its rude if we don't but we can't provide our own alcohol. Open bar for 3 hours plus wine with dinner will be an extra $30 a head. I am hoping local San Diego brides can help me with deciding on what to do, as I feel San Diego is a little more laid back than other parts of the country. Thanks in advance!