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Telling guests to bring ID ?

AssdazazaAssdazaza
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I followed (most of the) advise given to me on here about wording of my invite.

So I left of needing ID to get up to the venue (but did include about bringing their invites with them) As many people have said many people will forget the invite. But talking to the doorman, porter and building manager there is no way around the rule. All guests have their invites or ID or the doorman is phoning up to us to ask me or FI to ID the person.

There is just no getting around it.

I really don't want to get calls from him just before the vows or during because Uncle Bob or someone is late.

Is there someway to reiterate the need to the guests that have RSVPd that they need to bring their invites with them or bring ID

Phone them up? I don't know (invites have already gone out)

(Many of the guests wont naturally carry ID with them)

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  • AssdazazaAssdazaza
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    StageManager14 said:
    I thought they needed their ID to DRINK. Or is this different from the thread we had last week?

    no they need ID/invite to get in the building

    They wont need ID to drink it's all on private property (and a private event)

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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    This seems so unusual, but if the venue requires it, so be it. I think I would call anybody who RSVPs yes to let them know the rules. 


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  • RebeccaB88RebeccaB88 member
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    Can you leave a copy of the guest list with the doorman/security and the manager so they can match up ID's with names on the list?  Or plant someone there (day of coordinator, other person who volunteers) at the door with the guest list to help ID people?
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  • libby2483libby2483 member
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    Yep, I would follow PPs suggestions of just giving them a short reminder when they RSVP.  My parents attended a wedding at some sort of gun club where they needed an ID.  The couple put it on the invitations, but they also followed up with a quick phone call/e-mail/FB message with guests.
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    libby2483 said:
    Yep, I would follow PPs suggestions of just giving them a short reminder when they RSVP.  My parents attended a wedding at some sort of gun club where they needed an ID.  The couple put it on the invitations, but they also followed up with a quick phone call/e-mail/FB message with guests.
    This is what I would do too-and let them know that although you wish otherwise, security won't let them in if they don't have IDs on them.
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  • Teddy917Teddy917 member
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    I also don't think they'll call you to ID someone during the ceremony
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  • AssdazazaAssdazaza
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    Teddy917 said:
    I also don't think they'll call you to ID someone during the ceremony

    oh they would they are so strict on who gets in.


     

    RebeccaB88 said:
    Can you leave a copy of the guest list with the doorman/security and the manager so they can match up ID's with names on the list?  Or plant someone there (day of coordinator, other person who volunteers) at the door with the guest list to help ID people?

    they wont accept it. They are having a guest list. and if your ID doesn't match they aren't being let up (or if you don't have the invite)

     

    Thanks

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  • krizzo17krizzo17 member
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    Friends of mine got married in a hall that is actually on a military base, so ID was required to get in, even for the ceremony. They just reminded everyone every single time they saw them for like 6 months before the wedding, and as far as I know everyone remembered, they didn't have any problems. If you have a wedding website, put it on there as well.
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    Assdazaza said:
     
    Teddy917 said:
    I also don't think they'll call you to ID someone during the ceremony

    oh they would they are so strict on who gets in.


     

    RebeccaB88 said:
    Can you leave a copy of the guest list with the doorman/security and the manager so they can match up ID's with names on the list?  Or plant someone there (day of coordinator, other person who volunteers) at the door with the guest list to help ID people?

    they wont accept it. They are having a guest list. and if your ID doesn't match they aren't being let up (or if you don't have the invite)

     

    Thanks

    I think what Teddy was saying is that they'd probably make the person wait, not that they would just let them in. If a venue would 'call upstairs and interrupt' during the middle of the ceremony, I'd go ahead and find a different place to get married. 
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  • AssdazazaAssdazaza
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    scribe95 said:
    This place sounds rigid, stuffy and ridiculous. I would probably not get married there.
    LMc0322 said:
    I think what Teddy was saying is that they'd probably make the person wait, not that they would just let them in. If a venue would 'call upstairs and interrupt' during the middle of the ceremony, I'd go ahead and find a different place to get married. 

    We are having the wedding on the roof of our building so not a 'venue' in that sense. In telling the building what we were planning they were very clear that the usual policy of who gets in and who doesn't would apply. (Which means they would call up as their is no waiting in the lobby especially if they don't know them (so no loitering))
    It's not stuffy really just the policy of were we live.  Not an issue in day to say life but when having lots of people makes things more difficult.
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    Assdazaza said:
    scribe95 said:
    This place sounds rigid, stuffy and ridiculous. I would probably not get married there.
    LMc0322 said:
    I think what Teddy was saying is that they'd probably make the person wait, not that they would just let them in. If a venue would 'call upstairs and interrupt' during the middle of the ceremony, I'd go ahead and find a different place to get married. 

    We are having the wedding on the roof of our building so not a 'venue' in that sense. In telling the building what we were planning they were very clear that the usual policy of who gets in and who doesn't would apply. (Which means they would call up as their is no waiting in the lobby especially if they don't know them (so no loitering))
    It's not stuffy really just the policy of were we live.  Not an issue in day to say life but when having lots of people makes things more difficult.
    I guess that kind of makes sense. At my company, in a big building with lots of companies in the city, we provide a list of names to security and when guests come they have to provide an ID and be checked against the list, or security calls up and we verify they're our guest if they aren't on the list. If they don't have their ID someone has to go down and verify and escort them.

    If your building is similar, it makes sense. I would just do your best to make all of this clear - I don't attend weddings without my ID anyway since I'm always getting carded.
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  • KatWAGKatWAG member
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    OP,

    I was in the same exact situation. No one was getting into my venue without the invite or ID. It was a pain to communicate but ended up not being a problem at all. I contacted everyone I told them they needed to bring their IDs. I also had a handful of  extra invites printed in case someone forgot both. I gave them to my DOC/ wedding planner so she could hand them out as need be.

    If you explain that its the venue's rules I think people will understand. I dont think its horribly intrusive to ask someone to bring their ID.

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  • LavenderHoneyBeeLavenderHoneyBee member
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    Idea - Could you hire someone, or ask a friend that wouldn't mind, to man the phone and be on call to help sort out any doorman issues? Or even, to serve as a greeter and wait in the front lobby to avoid any problems? Maybe you could even ask a neighbor, or hire a responsible teen/college student that lives in the building to do this? So that way if there is any problem, that person could just sign in the guest?
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