So, I always read posts about how people are trying to include people in the wedding and want to make their kinda sorta friends or family guest book attendants, or ushers, or cake cutters, or whatever. I always think “oh that sucks for the person who gets asked!” Well, I just got an email from my brother’s fiancé confirming that I will be an usher in their wedding next month, and hand out programs, and get people seated. This is after I had just confirmed that I would help round up family and friends for pictures before the ceremony and during cocktail hour. It’s going to likely be about 90 degrees or hotter, and the last thing I really want to do is hand out programs, help people find their seats, and then stand in the back for the ceremony. C’est la vie! Obviously I can’t say no but thanks for letting me vent.
And if you are thinking of asking someone to be an usher to “include
them”-think long and hard about if that person would really care if they were
included or not. If the answer is no,
don’t give them a shit job to do (well really, don't give anyone a shit job to do).