I need to get some reinforcement from my fellow brides...my fiancees mother is so controlling! She wants to have a say in everything, and unlike many mature adults when she doesn't get her way (or her son sets the boundaries, which he does nicely) she POUTS! I spend my days with kindergartners, I DO NOT want to have to use my teacher voice with her too! So, here's the most recent "issue". For our wedding shower my Aunt threw us a beautiful and well organized party. She came, sat, ate, and left. Barely even said HI to myself and NOT at all to my family, or the hostess. However, she left her many gifts (which is how she tries to win over people) including a cake topper. A cake topper people! Not THE cake topper I want, but a tacky and totally son-centered cake topper! She just thought she would try and control that too....I NEVER bad talk her to my fiancee, even going so far as making special opportunities for her and I to bond but they always end with her being passively aggressive and bad talking me to him! So, here I am trying to decide the right thing to do with this topper. He says he likes it, but of course he does because it highlights his favorite SPORT and he commits to a new wedding theme with every change in the wind! My mother says to get a grooms cake and use it there...which will cost us more $. If etiquette calls to be polite and use the ugly thing than I will, but first I want to hear what you all say....xoxoxoxo
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