Hi all. I have a few good friends who have started dating people between when the STDs and invites (they were addressed without a +1) were sent. (I checked with my truly singles to make sure they weren't dating anyone before STDs went out)
Had I known about the relationships, they would have been included on the invites. In hindsight, I should have asked about SOs before the invites, and not the STDs went out. However, our invite numbers are right at what the venue can hold, without a couple major inconveniences. (We're not at fire code limit, but we are at the fitting-everyone-into-one-room limit. If our numbers go over, we'll have to put some people into a secondary room away from the dance floor and everyone else, which we don't want to do).
This is definitely my fault for not giving ourselves a "cushion", but I've received a couple messages along the lines of "Oh! I forgot to tell you I recently started dating John/Jane Doe. It's ok if I invite them, right?", and I'm not sure how to handle it.
Planning for 100% attendance, these people would put us over our preferred limit. However I'm sure that we'll have some declines. My inclination is to include these significant others and keep our fingers crossed.
Thoughts?
Edited for typos/clarity.